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[Diggler]

To be honest with you, it sounds like you want your cake and eat it too. That never works out when love is involved. Remember this if anything, "love last forever, lust last for about 30 seconds". Your husband sounds like he means the world to you and thats very rare in todays society to find love that is meaningful. But you can never stop someone from wanting and craving something. Ask yourself this question...would you be able to leave your husband for another man, let alone a Black man or stick to what you have now and wonder what if? It's your happiness that counts. Everything else can be figured out when time comes. Your husband deserves to know the truth as well as you having a piece of mind! Good Luck !!!

[solub]

But you need to progress slowly. You have to slowly inprint this idea into his head.
Some comments about his abilities, some comments about your fantasies, some porn which contains IR, get him to lick more and penetrate less, get a black dildo, show how much you enjoy it, try using it on him, etc. but most of all always show that you love him.

[amazonking]

This is a tough one. The other posters have given you a ton of good advice, so I will not belabor the point. I would point out to you that just as there really is no such thing as a perfect murder, there is no such thing as a 100% discreet extramartial affair. For one thing, your black stud (s?) knows that you are fucking around behind your husband's back. As the old expression goes, if two people know it, it is no longer a secret. I can think of a hundred ways your husband can "accidently" find out about you fucking black.

I tell you this not to scare you, but rather to try to have you see that the dice have been cast. You, a married white woman, have spread your legs for a black guy behind your husband's back. I hope that this will help you make a more relaxed and therefore, more logical decision, whatever that decision is. GOOD LUCK!

P.S.: You obviously like the pleasures that black cock gives you. You are ultimately your own person, so why deny yourself your own pleasures?

[jillwagner10]

just let him catch you with a big dick black guy and tell him that you need more then he can give but want to stay with him. Let him watch and he will never complain. Here is what my husband looks like and next to one of my lovers he understands

[anthonyc817]

[honesty in marriage is not the best policy when your breaking marriage vowels...keep him happy and do what you need to do to stay happy and keep your secret a secret..

[barron 1023]

u r going to hurt him i was done like that let me no if u want 2 no more

[wm44oh]

Kristine....
Good luck to you. Maybe hinting with an interracial video and seeing how hub reacts would be a good start. Or, take him to a adult store to buy a toy, then suggest or find a big blk one!!!

How ironique the world is. I've spent the better part of the last 8 years encouragining my live in g/f to enjoy blk as you do. She has tried twice, the last being almost 2 years ago. I continue to tell her I'd like her to be someone like you. (No, not using your name exactly) but describing someone just like you. Prim, proper and professional during the day, sub to blk at night. I would then enjoy being a sub to her and her lover(s).

And then there's you in this dilema.....damn.

WM, 46 now in Ohio

[snuggums]

Kristine, You need to find out if you and another man is a turn on for him, and also plant some seeds of lifestyle changes in his mind. A safe way to do this is through sharing your dreams. Not all dreams happen in your sleep but he doesn't need to know when you had this dream of being with BBC. It may not be instint but it will make him think about it.

[twoforyou10]

This is the best way to tell him, 1 morning grab him and tell him that you had the craziest dream, it freaked you out but made you horny at the same time, tell him you dreamed that you had sex with a black man and that he (your husband) was actually excited by it . Now you can gauge his reaction to the idea , at first he may be cold to the idea but after some time he may warm up to the idea.
Also you can always tell him you want to watch porn and go get a black on white porno and keep telling him how hot it looks watching a black guy fuck a white women

[whiteboi4bbcluvrs]

Perhaps you need to reassess what is going on with you right now?

I don't know your whole story... but once you cheat and once you do something that gives you such mixed emotions and thrills then guilt... your priming yourself to not think logically.
The endorphin rush will be intoxicating... then the down guilt feeling will make you feel horrible.
You may start looking for ways and reasons to make you NOT want to be with your partner so it is them driving you away (and maybe they are), or for them to be inadequate (and maybe they are). But that is usually a defense mechanism to remove guilt and to rationalize a life change.

If you really love and want to stay with your husband... then you need to stop cheating on him.
Telling him about it will do what? Clear your conscience? Meanwhile destroy his confidence in himself and in your marriage in an irrepairable way?

Really how many couples can swing, or have a cheating husband or wife and continue indefinitely. Probably not many.

Now if doing such things is something that adds some shared excitement and strengthens your committment to each other... then I guess it could work... it won't be something you'd share with your friends, his, or family... to save face for both of you... but then again who knows.... I don't know your situation.

Personally, I'm a single guy, I am very attracted to women, but also find black guys hot.
So I'm not in a relationship... maybe I'll meet a woman who just likes me and I'll just like her and never think of doing anything on the side and neither will she... maybe we would be so into sharing each other and our fantasies and past and so forgiving that we'd be ok with all that... and perhaps we'd experiment together. I have no idea. I'm pretty realistic and pragmatic. As far as I am concerned what a person does is usually private... but once your married you have a certain responsibility to another person (not to mention safety issues - like STDs, pregnancy issues, and just not embarassing them in some irreparable manner).

I think even if you continue in secret... you run a risk of being discovered and doing great damage. Even if not discovered you risk your own health and your husbands and that is not cool - I don't care if you use condoms or whatever your still at some level of risk that is unfair to your husband without his knowledge just as it would be unfair to you without your knowledge. Some STDs do not matter much and are treatable, but HIV/AIDS and even Hepatitis can be quite life changing.

My adivce... if you can't figure it out and be open (and it is probably too late for that after a person has strayed) because there is true face-saving that is needed and that will victimize both of you and be hard to repair. I think it would be better for you to just separate for a while until you can figure yourself out.

Perhaps during that time period you can date whomever and whatever type of guys you like and then go back to your husband. If he wants you back. You can share with him what you have done "during your separation" and see if it is ok with him on that level. But at least that gives you both openness and both equal power in the situation with mutual respect. If this is your life long partner and sweet heart... you'd want them to do that for you right?

If during a separation or you ever found out he strayed while you were together and sucked a bunch of big black cock or something... then I guess you'd be on equal terms and would like the same things... finding such things out and giving equal "permission" will be very difficult.

I wish you good luck and happiness for both of you.
~s~