mny wife had a problem getting into interracial too ,not because she was nervous but because she came from a racist background,..it helped that the couple we began to swap with were long time friends,.
perhaps for you it would be best to find someone both you and your husband are comfortable with.,..get to know your potential lover and procreed slowly.
even with knowing her lover well my wife was hesitant at first.,being bedded by a black man was not an appealing idea,yet with a little coaxing and encouragement she decided to try.,that was more than two years ago and she and her bull are closer then she ever dreamed they would be !
for my wife it took a more dominate hand to seduce her,.when her bull stopped being romantic and suave and acted more forceful and dominate my wife became his willing "bitch".
think about what you seek in a lover and find someone you and your husband find agreeable and get to know them until nature takes it's course.,..believe me instinct WILL eventually guide you into doing what you now have a problem overcoming.,..it did with my wife .
