Username: Adonis_Black Date: 28-01-2014 19:15:59 Mood: full of life Music:

Introduction

From conversations I've had with several submissive women, I have noticed that many of them struggle with how to take on the mantle of a submissive. They want to know what they should do to attract the attention of the kind of dominant man they imagine being with. Such a woman will often begin this journey from instinct and desire alone. It is initially a very private journey because she senses the inherent risks in allowing herself to become vulnerable. At the same time, those same risks, the torments she fantasizes about, and the loss of control inherent in submission fuels her desire. She keeps it under lock and key waiting for her master to show up. To explore those desires, she needs a partner in crime; someone whom she can trust completely and who is skilled enough to draw her hidden submission out of her. Therein lies the rub: finding such a man.

What follows is a recipe or process for submissive women to follow in order to resolve that conundrum. These are the initial steps that need to be taken in order to have her cravings for submission realized in her life. The goal of this process is to help a woman prepare for a relationship that involves a power differential where she is required to submit. It is based largely on my personal experiences helping submissive women work through the issues that arise as they accept those desires. I also bring to this process, as a dominant man, my own (admittedly high) expectations for a woman who desires to develop her submissiveness all the way to accepting the collar of a slave. This is my opinion and I'm not claiming it as a prescription for every submissive to follow. It is probably not applicable to thrill seekers, those looking for casual sex, or the terminally disgruntled, standoffish, or arrogant. This is for those women who have a tender, gentle, vulnerable side that are sincerely seeking congruence in their inner and outer lives. It provides a method of discovery to accept the submissive desire within. While I write this about submissive women, it is likely applicable to submissive men as well, and without regard to orientation. But, I write from what I know so I choose to write this to women interested in or becoming involved in the DM/sf dynamic.

While I define several steps below as The First Acts Of Service, it is not my intention that these steps be followed sequentially. While they do build upon each other in a logical progression, all these acts of service are an ongoing process that will repeat throughout a woman's journey into submissiveness. These are the basics, they're not particularly sexy, and often when things go wrong, its because these things have been forgotten or dismissed.

Before delving into these first acts of service, the submissive woman would do well to find a reason for embarking on this arduous journey. I assume that she feels submissive at her core and she is interested in attracting a dominant man into her life. If she will but think like such a man, she will realize that:

It is she, the submissive woman, that a dominant man desires.

He will regard her as property; valuable property that is to be cherished.

He will accept responsibility for himself, for her, and for the relationship.

He will lead, control and develop that which he owns.

He will prefer to own someone of great value to him.

These First Acts Of Service are provided in the hope that she will use them to increase both her value and desirability to him.

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