Break-thru conversation. Cali.
 

So the wife and I had some break-thru conversation and I think I know her main hang-ups with the idea of BBC.

hang-up #1. Bless her heart, she's afraid this is all about ME wanting to sleep with other women. She doesn't understand or believe that I want this 'mostly' for her pleasure. No doubt that this is MY fantasy 'watching the wife with a nice BBC.' But it would not be a fantasy-come-true unless my wife thoroughly enjoys herself as well.

hang-up #2. Married people don't do that sort of thing.

Watched a few Janet Mason scenes with her tonight. While the conversation was a little tense I bluntly but nicely asked her about any black fantasies. She said that YES, she'd had those fantasies when she was younger, but not as a married women.

I browsed with her earlier, photos of some cakes she'd made. She's fond of baking cakes and cookies and such. Later... while watching the BBC porn I pointed at the screen and told the wife... "You'd probably have to bake him a plate of cookies or something." She couldn't help but laugh a little and smile.

As she was drifting off to sleep tonight and we were saying our good nights. I told her to "Have sweet dreams honey... about all the stuff we talked about." and she smiled.

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