Wife loves bbc porn, denies wanting to try bbc
 

I had no idea my wife was into black guys. She has always been pretty tame in bed. Most of all she has done has been with me. I am a freak in bed and we have tried everything during our 8 year marriage. But, she is just not a freak or anything like that, at least, I don't think so. She won't even watch porn unless I spend an hour talking her into it.

Anyway, I rented this one porn vid and there was about 30 episodes on it. Of the 30, one of them had a well hung black guy. When that scene came on, she remarked that this was the first time she had seen a black cock. We had sex as usual and the porn really turned us both on.

The next day, I left the video on the back of the table behind the player. About noon, she sends me photos of herself fucking the largest dildo I bought her, one she refused to touch before. I didn't know what changed her mind. She called and said we could now use the dildo as she had broken it in. I didn't put two and two togther yet.

When I got home, I noticed that the video was in the cd player, not behind the player as when i had left. I asked her if she had watched the video and she was embarrassed. I told her I was happy she did and that I love that she watches porn. We rented some more and I noticed that she stopped and watched intently when it was a black guy fucking a white woman. I also noticed that she was very wet and horny afterward.

I began sending her mp4 movies to her phone of interracial porn. She watched them and I could tell she liked them. I later found evidence that she was watching IR porn that I hadn't sent her.

After a few months, I told her I was open to her taking a black lover as long as I was present with her. She refused. She said she didn't like black guys and she was not into stepping outside the marriage. I assured her that I was fine with trying it and that we could do it discreetly if she wanted, but she refused.

I have brought it up subtly about twice since then and she says she will not do it. However, she continues to watch bbc porn and we still watch it together.

I am wondering if anyone can advise me. Should I leave this alone? Does she sound like someone who will not ever do this or, as I suspect, is she afraid to admit her desires to me. I have considered waiting until she is drunk and arranging a bbc, but I don't know if this will be a good thing.

Advice is welcomed.

My piece of advise ..
 

Based on experience with my wife, and we've walked the talk, she did eventually take on an old university friend and roommate of mine, who happens to be black! His name is Edwin and they fucked their brains out ... it was a truly awesome experience for all concerned.

From what you've written your wife sounds much like mine! I did the same as you've done with the IR movies bit. The wife initially said they turned her off, then it was "Well if you want to" to "OK! Let's do that!" and on it went. The thing that turned my wife on the most was when we would be making out. I would say something like, "Would you like this to be a big black one that is getting into you?", or "Could you handle a big black one now?" In short take every opportunity to drive home the point that you'd like to see her get laid by some well hung black guy! When at the beach, in a shopping mall or on a street, wherever we saw a potential black lover for her I'd say something like, "Like that black guy?" or, "Think that black guy is well hung?" or "Think that black would like to get in your pants?" ... always with emphasis on the black guy and SEX! It took several years before the wife actually came around and "DID IT!" Now, after several months has passed, the wife is the one that's saying, "I think it's time to give Edwin a call!" or, like the other night when we were making out. "God! I'd love to fuck another black guy!"

So my final piece of advise: "Be consistently persistent and at a slow and steady pace. Never rush it, push it or impose it! All will be well and end well!"

Good luck and keep us posted.

Thank you for your reply dh4me. Her "no" seems so convincing and it seemed like I should back off, so i have. But, I feed her interest with porn videos on our cell phones and from the vid store. I mix it up. She told me she doesn't like BBC, that she likes big cock, not just bbc. That was a step in the right direction as she does not open up easily about her sexuality.

I also have played a game with her in bed during foreplay. I downloaded hundreds of photos that I felt she might like and also, ones that I like. And we each take turns looking at them and then showing the other a favorite that we like. Then it is the next person's turn. I noticed that, the first two she "liked" were white couples fucking. But then, the third and remaining choices were bbc's with white women. I know she is interested. I can feel it. I just think she does not want to admit it to me.

This is also something I worry about. I think she is attracted to black men becuase of their physique. I am at a comfortable point in my life and this does not make me feel threatened. But, only if she and I experiment within the marriage with clear boundaries. I fear that she will continue to deny her attraction and then she may pick up a black lover without me knowing. That would be the worst situation.

She showed the initial interest in black guys. I had no idea until she began showing signs of interest. So, in order to keep things within the marriage, I began suggesting a potential "porn night" where we can arrange a meeting with a well hung black male who could fuck her like she wants to be fucked. I think she believes that I will not be able to handle it or something. But, it is something I have thought about and, I would prefer she experiement with me instead of risk going outside of the marriage. Anyway, I am convinced that she would fuck a bbc if given the chance. I can sense it. But, it is complex. She is complex and I could be wrong.

She asked me why I would want to see another man fuck her. My reply was, this was her idea. I had no idea of the whole bbc community thing until she began showing an interest in the black guys on the videos. So, I figured she was into it and I thought I would do a nice thing and allow her to experiement with my blessing. I don't worry about it. I know there are guys bigger than me and who are better lovers. That is the point. I am willing to give her this as a gift as long as she will keep it within boundaries with me. Seeing her getting fucked by a huge guy who she is attracted to and with a really thick cock is something I am willing to give her if she wants it. Plus, she is voluptuous and she appeals to black guys and i feel that they hit on her a lot. I think I should address this before she finds herself out one night, without me and ends up fucking some thick cock bbc without my knowledge. I see them when we are out. Black guys stare at her ass and they are always polite to her. They love her ass because she has wide hips. She also has beautiful, large tits and she is the hottest lover I have ever had. The other appeal to me is that I wonder if she will handle a bbc as well as some of the women I see on the internet and in pornos. My feeling is, my wife is so good in bed, that she will be a natural for a bbc. Anyway...

Thanks again for your reply.

That's kind of the situation I'm in. My wife and I are experienced swingers and have been for a few years. We recently dropped out of the "lifestyle" for a break. During this break I suggested we try it again but maybe we should try a black guy one time. She declined. Didn't give a reason just said no. "No black guys." I don't know why this is. Maybe she feels I couldn't handle seeing her with a black man. Maybe she's afraid she'd like it too much and actually become a bbc whore. For now I'm doing nothing . Not sure what to do.

Wellllllll
 

I appreciate your perspective. I understand this may be the case. Thanks.

I understand this. In my case, my wife showed the initial interest in bbc. This was not my idea. I feel I am accomodating her tastes by being open. I believe the ball is in her court. I have shown her I am open to things. If she continues to show an interest and she makes another step toward that direction, I'll go from there. Some have told me it may be a long process. Others say it will not happen at all. It is not up to me, it is up to her. Thanks for your reply.

Again, I speak with NO experience,,,,
 

I think the answer may lay(pun) in your third paragraph....


She asked me why I would want to see another man fuck her. My reply was, this was her idea.

What about, "Because I love YOU and want to see YOU happy, if that IS what YOU want"

The other appeal to me is that I wonder if she will handle a bbc as well as some of the women I see on the internet and in pornos.

This could sound like a "challenge" to her.

(I'm wondering if she's had a black lover before you got together, and is "afraid you'll find out", and treat her differently.)

Just my thoughts on it.

Maybe, but she denies it. I am not critical of race in past relationships so that should not be a problem. Plus, when we saw the video of the black guy fucking the white chick together for the first time, she spoke up and said "that is the first black dick I've seen". I was not even thinking about it or talking about it at that time, and I noticed she liked it. So, I don't know if she did or did not sleep with a black guy in her past. I don't think she has but it doesn't matter to me.

The wife and I had the talk again about taking another man into the bedroom. She asked me why I would allow it and I said that I only want her to be satisfied. She said she is satisfied and, quite frankly, I do fuck her tight pussy right even though I am not porn star endowed. She told me she is not into black guys or asian guys, but she does like to be fucked hard and she admitted she has a fascination with big cocks...(she barely admitted this, it took her awhile). I asked her if she wanted to put an ad out somewhere and she refused again and said under no circumstances. So, as it is, I am putting this to rest for now as I am making no progress.

ok
 

It all sounds good untill you say its ok "As long as I am present"..... If you want her to feel free to do it then let her be "free to do it"

That might work for you, but it is not what I am looking for and, according to our conversations, is not what she is looking for. And, as it is, she is free to do it without my knowledge. That is called cheating and that is a boundary which I still recognize and hope that she does too. I prefer to keep this within boundaries, that is, we can both have a little play time as long as it is with openness between the two of us, and that I am present. There is also the safety issue of it. I would not feel comfortable having her meeting strangers for sex. If I am there, then I feel she is more safe. Anyway...

My Suggestion
 

You might try taking her out to a club where she could just dance with other guys some, (if you're "too tired to dance" or can't dance to slow/fast songs). Once she gets comfortable being in anothers embrace, you could "discuss" if she felt him rubbing up against her with his cock. As she gets more comfortable with it perhaps she'll even "dance" with a black guy and "notice" how he grinds against her.

Sounds to me like you/she are making some progress, slow, but progress, (remember SHE'S in charge of her own progress).

Just my two cents

Hmmm... I don't think the club thing will work for her and I. It's not something we are into. We go occasionally with friends, but she is more of a classy woman and in her late 40's. No, it won't be the club scene, but thanks for the suggestion. However, it is probably a good idea for her to be around some black guys to interact and see if the interaction is of interest to her.

We spoke about this a little in bed and I am not sure if this will remain a fantasy or turn into something more real. She continues to deny she wants to go further and I will look like a weird asshole if I keep bringing it up. There's not much else I can do, unless someone here has any thoughts on this. I am open minded and will let her experience this at least once to see how it works, but it is up to her to let me know that she wants to do it.

We talked some more about the subject of entertaining another man in our man (her of course). While she admitted she likes the porn where the guy is muscular and fucks the woman fast and hard, she said she does not care if he is black or white or whatever. She was trying to say, I guess, that her fascination is not with the whole "black thing" and more into a guy with a muscular physique with a big cock.

I have let this rest, mostly. However, I do send her porn pics occasionally and she looks at them with me on occasion. When I remain silent on the issue of adding a third to our bed, she does not bring it up.

One interesting development, she saw me talking to a younger woman at a party recently. My wife had done a few shots of whiskey and was quite drunk. She was jealous of the woman because the woman had wide hips and a plump butt as I like. On our way home (walking), she told me that she accepts if I want to fuck the woman or some other woman, but that she doesn't want me to leave the marriage.... that she wants to stay together. So, if I must find some younger woman to fuck, to do it and get it out of my system. I can't imagine she meant it because she was so drunk. I did ask her later if she meant it (when she was sober) and she said that, ulimately, she would not leave me, but she would prefer if I didn't fuck other women.

I don't know where it came from. Maybe some things can be explained away as alcohol induced, or maybe she is repeating back to me what she thinks I want to hear. In other words, if she rewards me with a woman in my bed, maybe she will feel it is okay to fuck another man.

What do you think?
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