My cheating wife took off
 

It’s been 2 weeks since I confronted my wife about her secretly seeing an older black man. For some stupid reason I thought that given the open lifestyle that we lived before COVID that telling her I know about him needed to be done. One minute in to the conversation I knew it was not going to end well. My wife Amanda is a super easy going woman, but when she feels cornered, her claws come right out. After I said my piece she fired back at me. She came off with some shit, like why all of the sudden do I care that she's having sex with a black man ! I couldn’t believe her crap, no matter how much cuckold stuff we did in the past; I do want to know that I'm sharing her with someone. Obviously, she’s not thinking the same way. I guess the thrills she's getting with him, sneaking around from everyone are worth it.

Bottom line, after a major blowout, she gave me the silent treatment before walking out. She came home the next day and didn’t say a word. She got some of her stuff and took off again. I haven’t seen her since, but I know she’s been coming home for more stuff while I’m at work. I’m hoping she just needs some space, which is nuts because she’s the one that got caught fucking someone. Not once, but she went out of her way, damn near every day to be with this ex prison guard. I don’t know what he’s telling her and what's going to happen, but it’s going to be what it’s going to be.

Change the locks.
Freeze the joint accounts

Make her communicate otherwise why have a relationship at all.

Why I never confronted my wife
 

I knew she was fucking her married younger black co-worker, I asked her and she denied it and I just let it go. I am small endowed and a premature ejaculator and understood her need for more and I think the cheating was part of the turn on for her.
He was married to a beautiful black woman his age and had a couple of young kids so I know he had no intention of stealing her from me.
I realize your case is different, hope it works out.

You have been replaced
 

I've been there myself.

So you lost her! Time to move on. Change the locks. Bag up all her stuff and leave it outside your door with a note " You want out OKAY YOUR OUT. Don't come back". Clean out all your bank accounts (before she does). Open an account in a new bank. File for divorce!

Now go out and find someone who wants you and cares about you. Your (current) wife only cares about herself!

Good for her. Probably best thing she ever did. In short the best man won.

is there an update?