Halloween costume idea
 

Maybe suggest the old pimp & ho couple costumes, but with a twist. Tell her you will go as the ho & she can go as the pimp. You have an excuse to dress up in her sluttiest undergarments and she gets to playact as a dom black male.You may get some insights on how she imagines black men should handle submissive women (or femboys)

We were joking that I needed to get in touch with my feminine side yesterday so I decided to go for it and surprise her and wear her panties to bed. I put on a black thong and got under the covers.

When she came to bed I said I was getting in touch with my feminine side. First, she jokingly offered to give me a dollar bill like I was a stripper, but then she said that it looked disturbing. I could tell she was pretty surprised by it and not really turned on by it. She said there are grey areas and there is over the line. She said this is over the line and not to wear her panties any more. She said it in a somewhat joking manner.

She did give me a BJ afterwards so all was not lost.

I would like to get to a place where she is comfortable with it, even if I wear them sometimes. I am thinking she was caught by surprise and needs some time to process it.

What should I do next?