ILI-Chat - Keep it Real
 

Hello fellow ILI-Chatters,

Some may know and remember me from the Drawings I post in the chatroom(s).
I haven't posted on the Forum for a while; but that's going to change.

The Topic I would like to talk about (and get info) is: ILI-(iloveinterracial)Chat - Keep(ing) it Real

Over the years I have met many nice, interesting and fun people.
In the begining (couple months) I didn't talked that much. I Observed (don't confuse it with perving) and checked the chatroom to get an idea what type of people (chatters) are using this platform - chat.

Once I learned what type of people were using the chat I started (random) conversations with men and women. For the most part everybody is very nice, fun and interesting in their own way. At the time many did take the trouble to have real conversations which made it more easy for normal curious people to join. It didn't matter if you were talking with male, female, black, white, straight, bi-sxuals, lesbians etc.

Than at some point I encountered some very strange individuals. Haters (Racists), Silent chatters (pervert non-chatters who only click cams to view and probably get off), male (hubby) chatters from couples who's wifes are never around and male chatters who pose as female.

From that point on I started to get into the VERIFY(ING) Business.
I myself have Verified dozens of chatters; in my case; most of them being Female.

By the end of last Year the chatroom changed dramatically. Ever since the Update of the chatroom less regular real - verified chatters (male and female) have been coming online. In return many new chatters joined the chatroom.

This in it's own isn't and shouldn't be a problem. The point is; most of the new chatters seem to be and in fact are male chatters posing as female chatters. Also many new chatters don't seem to start and - or have real conversations anymore. There seems to be a disconnection going on. Chatters seem to be less tolerant towards eachother (black, white, straight, bi-sxual, lesbians etc.) Everybody seems to be waiting on eachother for someone to talk and start a conversation. Instead of making ones Interracial experience Reality it's becoming more of a Fantasy only.

For an Interracial Experience to become Reality - You should KEEP IT REAL!

To the ILI-Chatters:
- What are your thoughts on ILI-Chat?
- Any ideas how to make ILI-Chat more accessible to the general public (chatters)?

When real is not acceptable.
 

I remember chatting about my wife's sexual encounters when more and more it seemed as if others did not like the reality that I presented. It was evident and those that found my conversation disgusting made it very clear that they wanted me out of the chat room. I ignored those that were not keeping a civil chat but the person I was chatting with, disappeared. End of the conversation. That ended my chat experience. I don't believe that I will step forward anymore in the Chat Room.

Remembering when my wife got on the cam with a man that put her down. Why, in the world, would a woman step forward and cam to repeat this bad experience?

Whatever your cup of tea is, choose to let others be real. I've found that so many alternative lifestyles cannot accept every alternative lifestyle. They become prejudice and make deragatory remarks. In my book, they are hypocrites.

Too bad you had a negative experience in iloveinterracial Chatroom.

After Observing the Chatroom for a long time:

I think a "new chatter" has a far better chance when introducing him- and / or herself so the regular chatters can get to know the new kid on the block (so to speak).

Many new chatters start off by pushing their ideas and lifestyles in the faces of the regular chatters. And that's one of the problems in my honest opinion.
An introduction and a "normal" (as normal as can be) conversation will lead to better results.

Of course there will be a small percentage that still doesn't want to talk but that's just a matter of accepting the situation and get over it without having any hard feelings.

Thank you for sharing your opinion - answers.

No I am not one of the ILI developers.
I am doing Research on the behavior of primarily Female Chatters in relation to the Interracial Scene (communication - interaction between Black Men) by Observing the Chatroom.

Of course some in the Chatroom laughed it off as being a trick stating and confusing "Observing" with "Perving".
It doesn't bother me because I still get my info by Observations with or without the chatters believing in the Research.

Some might see the Research as "Profiling" which is an absurd idea and gives too much credit; because that's an whole other level of Research.

Having said all that:

- I think this Chatsite has potential even when the chat seems to be silent - quiet at times.
- Making it more accesible to the general public can bring more life to the chat if managed in a good way.

Simple but complicated.
 

Stepping off topic, the Chat Room is quiet and I have so far just observed without introducing myself. After all, the simplest of introductions is that one is in the Chat Room and one's profile is available to others in the Chat Room. This becomes apparent when someone actually steps forward and asks a question or comments about my profile. Hence, a simple introduction has already been acknowledged. This discussion or, should I say, the getting to know others is often an eye opener into a new relationship or moving on to find a relationship that suits the inquirer.

It was evident that others really did not accept the realness of the wife's and my alternative lifestyle. What was too bad was that they voiced there dislike for that lifestyle. What answers I gave and what volunteered info I gave ultimately lead to even the inquirer to just leave. That he left, was acceptable and ultimately said that he was not interested. He left without saying that he was disgusted whereas the others voiced their disgust.

I suspect that this sort of interaction may not be a part of your research, and yet, it could lend to signify the real struggles found in the Chat Room.

The new lay-out of the chat room had a lot to do with REGs( guys an girls) not participating in it anymore.... WHY?? because it freaked the verified normal women out that there CAM could be viewed by anyone ( mainly weird cucks and pervs) with out there permission.... since then that feature has been updated but the damage was done and people have moved on..... no more real women in the chat room will result the normal regular (down-to-earth ) guys not signing in as well..... the chat room has turn into a ghost town of nothing but gay men and fake women with no CAMs lol smh ( the forums too)

In a normal setting chatters should view and read the profiles first. The reality is; most don't read profiles maybe only viewing pics and vids at best.
Also many profiles are set to private which makes the profile owner less attractive to get to know better.

Due to the many fakes most chatters hardly ever start a conversation these days. The ones who do have conversations are often regular chatters who have been active long enough to build some trust and or have verified eachother via webcam.

Although this is an adult web- / chatsite; new chatters should avoid talking about sexual topics when they want a conversation. It's not much different than meeting someone in public. In public you don't talk about sex straight away. You get to know the other person better.

Of course there are individuals who talk about sex straight away. Most of them in this case are cucks and that's the type male chatters don't want to talk to.

Thank you for your take / anwser
 

You have a very good point. The new lay-out of the chatroom seems to have played a very big role in regular chatters not participating (signing in) anymore.
Another possible cause could be that chatters are using outdated hard- and software making chat and webcam lag, lose connection regularly which frustrates them and give up trying sgning in.

The chatroom has somewhat become a ghost town. Hardly anyone is talking in mainchat anymore even if there are 30+ chatters online.

Sigh, I Miss the
 

hey beautiful

lil cub
 

Well well, I see we meet again....
 

LOL.. What you talkin 'bout?

Of course I know all you do on iloveinterracial (atleast now-a-days) is the forum.

You've always been The Beautiful Cougar-Mom who's keeping tabs on all her ILI Cubs.

Hope the legit newbies (especially Female Chatters) would come online in chatroom more often. It isn't too bad once they get to know the regular chatters. At least the ones who still do sign in.

MUSTANG ALLEY~ I do keep true to my word. By being active on the forum; forum users and visitors will eventually realize there are quite a lot of legit "Verified" ILI-Chatters active.
PS: Hope they (forum users - visitors) don't confuse my Forum-Topics as (with) ranting... LOL

Dude, this is disturbing. :)
Just kidding, of course...

But as a person who goes on a chat and not on this forum, I have to express my opinion which is that as long as there's gonna be allowed login into the chat room to persons without cams - there's gonna be fakes...
You can't change human mind... Each day there are at least 10 different people who find this site and half of them will enter the chat room at least once to see what's going on... And 70% of that half will be white guys trying to "catch a glimpse" of a black guy jerking off in front of the cam... That's just the reality of it.

The persons I hate the most in chat rooms are not fakes (which I can spot easily 5 minutes into conversation; with some even after few sentences) but the ones who don't wanna chat with you because you're a guy or a white guy... That's just stupid and ignorant in my opinion.

Thank you for your opinion WhiteguyfromEurope
 

No, that's not ignorant at all...... I Know I don't want to chat with guys because 1. I didn't join this site to chat with men...and 2. IM NOT gay...... Now the 'white guy' thing has to do with the type of white guys that hang out on this site (WIERDOS)

Since when talking with a guy in a sex chat room is gay? Talking is just that - talking. Nothing more.

However, I do get your point since I too get messages from guys asking all kinds of "weird" questions that I don't feel comfortable answering...

I just want you all to know that there is that 0,01% of us NORMAL dudes who are here just for fun... I mean, seriously, since I live in the middle of NOWHERE - whom I gonna meet from this forum and chat anyway? That's why chat room for me is always that and nothing more - a CHAT room. :)

Keeping it real
 

i have been a member for only 4 months but have chatted on other sites. i agree with Black Stud. Just for the few months I've been a member I've met some fun people,male and female.

I have noticed in just the last couple of months quite a few fakes men posing as females and white men posing as black men.

Now let's b real we all fake in some degree in this type of enviroment starting with our usernames

But i would like to know when you say you r a female or have a partner interested that they r not fakers..

I have also gone to verifying the people i chat with,this really takes away the fun in chatting. I would suggest there b some sort on monitor or moderator to stop the disruptive elements that r starting to overwhelm the chat room.

Rumpbumper10

Going slightly off-topic here, I agree with the principle of using observation as far as leading to a tangible result.

In my case, as a T-Girl, I have unobtrusively observed 'real' women in day-to-day situations, with the long-term objective being to present myself to the world at large in a way that is acceptable.

I don't use the chat-room here, or on many other sites that I belong to; but your points about the nature of the experience changing are well received.

I, for one, am always up-front with people about who & what I am. Okay, in the early days on this site, I WAS being a bit of a 'fake; but I had good reasons for that. I didn't know how US opinions towards 'girls' like myself gelled with the way the public perceives us here in the UK. I always intended to 'come'clean', but Mustang kinda pushed me into it a bit sooner than I intended; ask her about it, if you like. She'll confirm what I have just said.

My husband and I are not into this chatting...we prefer to meet, greet and if all goes great...we get to fucking. Chatting is just that....having sex is way more enjoyable!

Thanks for your opinion.
 

Thank you for sharing your opinion and experience.
 

Thank you for your story.
 

There is a slight improvement on ILI-Chat
 

I've had quite a few experiences with folks, both good and bad. The first time I was here, the bad outweighed the good so much that I deleted my account. I stayed away for about a year and came back. Its not as bad as before, but there are still some assholes around. I learned a little bit in my time and don't accept requests from people who have lots of friends but no pics of themselves at all. In the chat, I try to weed out the fakes and idiots but sometimes its hard. I forget who said but I agree with the person who said that we females don't turn on our cams because anyone can look without permission. I can honestly say that keeps me from turning on my cam most of the time. But then that becomes a double edged sword, because if you're not viewed on cam you can't be verified. I don't know...slippery slope.

Well it is that kind of atmosphere in here and it's quite sad really, some fakes have come and messed things up, many real ones still kind of hide and i don't really blame them, we dont really have trust anymore and we are just now trying to build it up again and in the chatroom its usually always sex talk with men who have their brains in their penis's like the world is going to end tomorrow and it scares women away. Now there are a few decent people coming in chatroom and now having a decent conversation without sex and if we don't talk about sex all the time more women would come in. If this site expunged the sex side of things it would function ok and the fakes get bored and go away!!

You make a good point. When I logged in earlier today, there was actual a conversation going on about quantum physics. Now granted that's a bit deep but it was refreshing to see something different. I get so tired of the minute I log into the chat I get bombarded with PMs asking if I want to get fucked and demanding that I turn on my cam. That definitely keeps me from turning mine on now. Although I do still pop in from time to time, just to see if things are different.

ILI-Chat is getting better - October 24, 2014
 

We Stopped
 

Initially, we thought turning the cam on was routine and expected. Ended up doing shows for who knows in that feeding frenzy. We're more into meeting locals in person than playing games online. Discussions are fine and occasionally engaging in the forums, but chat is just not for us as it currently stands. In the forums, you can tell pretty easily who's a poser or a wannabe.

To each their own
 

Don't mind me I'm just the pussy stealer of ILI. LMAO! But yes let's ALL keep it REAL in chat peeps!:p

CRAZY talk
 

Thank you for your comment.

CRAZY talk!? ... Perhaps so ... but in a chatroom full of CRAZIES .. it's NORMAL! :D

Pussy Stealer
 

Oh Noooooooooooooo.... The Pussy Stealer found my Forum Thread(s). Now I have to count every Pussy to see if none are missing. ;)

BiBBWDivaGoddess, Glad you dropped by. It's good to hear from you. People / Chatters do miss you. You should sign in from time to time and help others to Keep it Real. :cool: