Is it rude to ask a married friend if he would fuck my wife?
 

Been friends a few years now, have heard him talk about side pieces before, but not sure how he would react to me asking him to fuck my wife.
Does anyone have advice on how to broach the subject with a friend who I am not sure is into this lifestyle or not? He is BBC and white, and his wife is white. I don't want to lose a friend because he thinks I am a freak, but also would rather he do it first, because my wife is comfortable around him and we all hang out together.
Is there a social etiquette to asking that question? Or do I just say Hey, wanna long stroke my ol lady?

Any serious answer greatly appreciated.

Todd

I appreciate the feedback, and I understand exactly what you mean about the hypothetical scenario. My girl is built like his, so it may not be too much of a stretch. I have not asked about how he would feel about this yet, or even sure if I want to ask about his fidelity.

Take it easy a brother will understand your request, eather he will do it or not.

I have had a couple of feelers from casual friends over the years that if I made a pass at their wife, that the wife would probably be interested. I have never fooled around with a married woman, exception for one situation. They guy , only in his late 30s, insisted that his medicine made him impotent. He said he knew I was safe, and they were moving anyway.
So I spent a memorable night with one horny, fine looking lady. They moved a week later. They called and wanted me to visit in Philly, but I said no thanks,

all I can say is that it takes a real friend to slam another's guy wife. of my best friend asked me to fuck his wife, I would be more than happy to help out.

I appreciate the feedback
 

Just hoping I can suck it up, and ask him to do it.

depends. if he's close enough to consider him a brother?
if she knows him, is she gonna be blindfolded?

if the answer to either of these is no i wouldn't go for it.

Never thought about blindfolding her, I guess that would make it a little easier to not have awkward moments.

White - But Done This Twice
 

Both times the woman approached me when I was staying over with them. They had discussed it in advance. We went and found the husband so he could watch (first time.) That was absolutely great. But he never wanted it to happen again. Second time, she proposed it on email. They had discussed it. We started a couple of hours before he got home from work, but she only got super-hot once he got there, so being watched by him was her main kink. He helped on the second one. I had known number one couple for about 13 years, and number two for about three years. Number one lady came so much, he was actually mad at me for a few years. I have a date with number two couple for next summer when I'm on the coast.

Rue
 

No. I'm a wife who wants to fuck. Real bad.

Any help?
 

Ok, from reading your post I'm not quite sure, you and wife are white, and friend is black with white wife,,,,,right? And, has your wife tried black before or does she just want to start?

My first thought was, show him some pictures of her, like vacation pictures or pictures of her with something he may be "interested" in or with a relative, etc. Then a more sexy pose here and there, see if he will make some kind of comment about her, lead the conversation to how sexy or desirable she is, etc, once he starts making comments about her you;ll know if he's willing to "do her" then find out if he will and when.

Just my unprofessional ideas

It would be rude not to!

My wife is free to play with anyone she feels attracted to, lately it has been with black men and I have never seen her so turned on! We have always lived a very sexual private lifestyle with other women involved with us but after 30 years it is evolving.

I don't think it would be rude. Just ask him if he would like to and then go with whatever his answer is.

Dazed and Confused
 

"He is BBC and white, and his wife is white. ......"

He is BBC and white? Do you know what BBC stands for?

;););)
:confused:

Rude? Not at all!
 

I was in this same scenario years ago with a buddy from work, lt was a white guy though. We were both at a bar and I asked him, "Why do guys get all pissed off when they see you looking at their wife? Don't they realize it's a compliment to the man to know that his wife is still attractive and a sexual turn on to other men?!"
His reply, "So if a guy was checking your wife, (who is hot and a turn on) you wouldn't get pissed off, or what if he made a move on her, then would you get mad?!"

I explained, my wife and I are very secure and that just the thought of seeing her with someone else kind of sounds hot, the more I think about it!"

I looked at him without even having to ask him, and said, "Dude, I bet you would love tapping my wife, wouldn't you?!"


Now as for her getting her first BBC experience, her first one was all her doing, the rest came from me setting them up. My point is, find a wày to throw it out thère in a conversation that doesn't sound like, "Dude, you want to fuck my wife?"

Just remember, a friend is a great place for her to start, especially since there is a connection and if it's her first time, it will help her with the jitters that sometimes scare the wife from going through with it. Good luck!

If it is your wife's first time you could end up losing either or both of them. whilst it does make sense with her being comfortable with him to start, he may never look at either of you quite the same way if he is into this life style or not.

Like wise if it is your first time you may not look at either of them the same way again. Esp if they are well into it and you are not.

Trust and discretion go hand in hand for most of us. Set limits and stick to them, you can push it further later. Meet somewhere for a meal or drinks and discuss stuff like where this will happen, how this is to end. How will you feel if they fuck each other stupid then cuddle and drop off to sleep in you marital bed ? Safe sex, bare back, kissing, no kissing, will you be ok kissing her if she wants you to after she has been blowing him ? What If she wants to meet him again ? remember you may have said she is free to ?

All the other stuff such as if he is bigger than you or a better fuck ? You both need to be comfortable and trust is the key. Jealousy can be an issue for some even some time after the event, even if it turned you on at the time.

Holiday snaps are a good way to see if he is attracted to her, as a previous reply suggested as your conversation moves forward you can have a second set of more revealing snaps such as topless one's. If he is cautious in his compliments make it clear she is your partner but not your property. Tell him you like that he thinks she is attractive, if he pushes a little more then say something such as ' you know buddy she is her own person, she is free to do what or see who she see's fit and you are cool with that '. If he wants in ... make sure your role is defined for at least for the first meet, you can change next time, will you be a voyeur, a cuck or taking an active part during or after they have finished. Or even that you would like see how it goes at the time. Give him an understanding of what to expect from you. Will you even be present ?

He maybe fine to fuck her but you naked at the time next to or in front of him may not be what he envisaged. Sort it first up and maybe save some angst.

Make sure you are ALL as aware of what you are hoping is going to happen; as when he is buried balls deep in her and she has forgotten you for a moment or all together it is frankly a bit late to say it is all too much. If you find yourselves arguing in the kitchen or on the way home in the car or when alone in the motel you will have no one to blame except yourself.

None of this is to put you off, it is more about all being aware and on the same page so to speak.

Good luck with whatever you guys do.