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Canadian Black Breeder 12-14-2014 07:54 AM

Serious Question For The Fellaz
 
So, if you're a single father, and you find a woman who is into you and is talking to you about being your queen, ring and all, and she wants you to put it on her finger.

You're into this woman, she's got that butt n gut, thick ass thighs, large breasts, and you're raising your daughter as a single father, you have morals, and then, you see a link that the woman that you're talking to is on, and you see this woman giving this dude head, how do you handle the situation?

A) Do you just walk away, and not look back

B) Do you forgive this woman for what she does, ( Remember, this woman is wanting to help you raise your daughter together, like she gave birth to her )

C) Do you ask this woman to stop doing porn, so that you two can work on getting past what she does?

D) Insert your own response here

dirtygirl 12-14-2014 09:51 AM

Do u love her
 
Thats the question
and id choose option 3 - your no angel and u have a past

notrub42 12-14-2014 08:08 PM

We all have pasts; ditto our partners!

Most married men and women try other temporary partners!
Accept the black man/woman temporarily enriching your partner's life!

Hugs

justanotherface24 12-14-2014 11:06 PM

walk away
 
no brainer, fuck it.

jcol1056 12-14-2014 11:12 PM

If she is doing porn while the two of you were together and she didn't let you know in advance then she isn't trust worthy. If she did porn before you two got together then you can try and work it out.

Canadian Black Breeder 12-14-2014 11:33 PM

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Originally Posted by jcol1056 (Post 69467)
If she is doing porn while the two of you were together and she didn't let you know in advance then she isn't trust worthy. If she did porn before you two got together then you can try and work it out.

She was doing low budget porn, and didn't tell me, we have not been together, we were very serious about getting together, and making it official, one night, I clicked on a link of hers, and I see her giving some dude head, which completely threw me off.

Canadian Black Breeder 12-14-2014 11:34 PM

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Originally Posted by notrub42 (Post 69463)
We all have pasts; ditto our partners!

Most married men and women try other temporary partners!
Accept the black man/woman temporarily enriching your partner's life!

Hugs

The problem is, I wasn't going to make her my temporary partner, I was literally going to put a ring on her finger, and make her my queen.

Canadian Black Breeder 12-15-2014 03:54 AM

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Originally Posted by mywayintermsofsex (Post 69472)
Unfortunately, i am not really sure about the situation you describe.

As notrub42 said, "we all have pasts".

So, is it something she did before you first met or your relationship got serious? Or is she going on with it still?

Also, is the picture you saw something you can get past, or is it too much for you to handle (even if it was some activity of her past, before you)?

If this is too tough for you to handle there are bad chances your relationship will ever turn out fine. Otherwise it is, like you said, something from her past, and there are chances for you to deal with it.

IMO the question is, did she purposely hide this away from you (that would raise doubt in her trustworth), or is it something she wanted to tell you at some point, but was not quite sure how to go about it?

How did you come across this link? Did she leave her notebook or mobile with that page open, so that you could easily find and access it? Maybe it was her intent that you find it because she had no other idea how to tell you.

And what was your (first) reaction? You didn`t say anything about this. :( Did you approach her about it (talk to her or get mad at her)?

Anyhow, adult entertainment is not immoral and doesn`t say anything about a person`s social or intellectual abilities! So this does not automatically mean in her private life she will have a bad influence on anyone.

BTW, IMHO it is a bad idea to choose a partner just because she will make a good parent for your child. First, your relationship with her shall be meaningful and you should have the feeling that there is a conjoint future possible with her. This provided, if your daughter gets along well with her, it`s even better.

Think about what seems best for the three of you both with your brain and with your heart.
Good luck with your dicision!


With this woman, she's a bbw, and she is a feeder, and she asked if I would be ok with her putting a little more weight on, which I told her that would be fine, as long as it doesn't begin to jeopardize her health.

I clicked on her profile page, which is on another site, and came across the link, and saw her in a video giving some dude dome.

She lives in florida, and i'm in Canada, but we've been talking for quite a long time, and we were both into each other, and I was into her brains, before her sexy phat booty, ( Just for the record )

She intentionally did not tell me about the video, and if i'm going to be with a woman, and put a ring on her finger, entrust my daughters well being, safety with this woman, doesn't that make me just as bad as the father of a young lady?

Mr Real 12-15-2014 03:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Canadian Black Breeder (Post 69478)
With this woman, she's a bbw, and she is a feeder, and she asked if I would be ok with her putting a little more weight on, which I told her that would be fine, as long as it doesn't begin to jeopardize her health.

I clicked on her profile page, which is on another site, and came across the link, and saw her in a video giving some dude dome.

She lives in florida, and i'm in Canada, but we've been talking for quite a long time, and we were both into each other, and I was into her brains, before her sexy phat booty, ( Just for the record )

She intentionally did not tell me about the video, and if i'm going to be with a woman, and put a ring on her finger, entrust my daughters well being, safety with this woman, doesn't that make me just as bad as the father of a young lady?

I guess you have had sex with her already and now the hard part is forming a relationship with her, you will want to check out a lil bit of her history and the first insecurity hurdle is erected already and anxiety follows it and she might be thinking the same thing about you. You now expect her to be wifey material. Her self respect and your self respect is a game of chess!

Canadian Black Breeder 12-15-2014 08:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr Real (Post 69485)
I guess you have had sex with her already

NO, we have not even gotten together, we were at the point of taking that next step, and get together, and begin to bond, but when I came across the link of the video of her giving head to some dude, I had to walk away in thirty seconds.

Mr Real 12-15-2014 09:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Canadian Black Breeder (Post 69493)
NO, we have not even gotten together, we were at the point of taking that next step, and get together, and begin to bond, but when I came across the link of the video of her giving head to some dude, I had to walk away in thirty seconds.

Every woman you meet will tell you that they are classy etc, it's for you to be the judge of that. If it was me that saw that i would of just move on but you do what you feel is right for you but if and when you meet up trust me try not to have sex, engage in some good social chemistry first

Canadian Black Breeder 12-15-2014 09:11 PM

Trust me, I will not be getting together with that woman, I just can't, she lacks morals, and has made a bad life choice.

Mr Real 12-15-2014 09:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Canadian Black Breeder (Post 69495)
Trust me, I will not be getting together with that woman, I just can't, she lacks morals, and has made a bad life choice.

Well you made the right decision, I did meet a woman online once, she said i can get any man i want lol and she was not really all that, straight away i had to move on from that trash. I try and stay away from the ones that love social media stuff and smart phones etc.

Mustang Alley 12-15-2014 10:24 PM

Glass houses
 




From what you said the video link was on her profile, if she was trying to hide it she wouldn't have had the video posted there for you to see. Plus it's her past. Same as all your BREEDING over the years. See glass houses. "Life choices"

If she really meant all that you said she meant to you then tell her how the video made you feel. Maybe she forgot it was even there. Is it a profile that she visits often?




Mustang Alley 12-15-2014 10:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr Real (Post 69496)
I try and stay away from the ones that love social media stuff and smart phones etc.




Amish women? Lol. Not into all that social media but Love My phone!! lol :p



Canadian Black Breeder 12-15-2014 10:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Mustang Alley (Post 69497)




From what you said the video link was on her profile, if she was trying to hide it she wouldn't have had the video posted there for you to see. Plus it's her past. Same as all your BREEDING over the years. See glass houses. "Life choices"

If she really meant all that you said she meant to you then tell her how the video made you feel. Maybe she forgot it was even there. Is it a profile that she visits often?




Let me begin by saying, I have not had the opportunity to breed any women in my city at all.

How as a woman, do you justify doing low budget porn, and not recall doing it, then, when you have a serious love interest, you don't disclose this to the man who is serious about the two of you being under one roof?

But she had the sense enough to ask me if I would mind her putting on more weight, considering that she's a gainer, to which I said, no, go ahead, cause she was sexy as it is, but to omit the truth about doing porn from me, no man in his right man cannot resolve this issue internally.

Canadian Black Breeder 12-16-2014 05:53 AM

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Originally Posted by mywayintermsofsex (Post 69505)

Anyway, seems a bit disturbing... they never met for real

We were talking for almost a year, and we were making plans to take that next step, and she was going to fly up to spend time with me, and spend time around my daughter, but because of what I found, I had to make the right decision, not just for myself, but my daughter as well.

The woman that I was speaking with is not on here, but on another site.

jimbrowski 12-17-2014 03:43 PM

A. Any women that would show or sell her body for money has no shame, and should be with people like her. I would be out unapologetically!

Canadian Black Breeder 12-17-2014 04:44 PM

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Originally Posted by jimbrowski (Post 69545)
A. Any women that would show or sell her body for money has no shame, and should be with people like her. I would be out unapologetically!


And I agree, but yet, we watch porn daily, so we're being supplied the demand, and it continues to go around in a vicious circle, so who's to blame?

dirtygirl 12-18-2014 12:28 PM

I think u know
 
To me i think that you already know the answer in your heart.
Mot being judgemental and all - if you were ok with it you wouldnt be in turmoil.
You are not OK with it from what i gather so let it go
So many women out there

dirtygirl 12-18-2014 12:41 PM

Straight shooting
 
Thanks OBS
My way is to be straight like it or leave it lol
xxx

Canadian Black Breeder 12-18-2014 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by dirtygirl (Post 69560)
To me i think that you already know the answer in your heart.
Mot being judgemental and all - if you were ok with it you wouldnt be in turmoil.
You are not OK with it from what i gather so let it go
So many women out there

Wow, you're pretty much on point dirtygirl, but what bothers me, is ya, she was giving this guy
head, but now, I type her name into google, and I see a lot more things that she has done, and is doing, recently anyway, and it was not once mentioned to me, or I wasn't asked how I would feel about her doing work for certain online sites.

And for her to know how into her I was, she not once has even come to me, and sent me an apology for not being more honest, and I keep asking myself, what if I would have taken that next step with her, and put a ring on her finger, and said I DO.

I'm in an area of the entertainment sector, and for me to be married to a woman who does stuff like that would make me look like a hypocrite.

Then, I would have to look my daughter in the eye every day, knowing that I put her, and me into this bad position, and carrying that guilt around with me 24/7 would make me feel like a very bad father for making the wrong decision for the both of us.

Mustang Alley 12-19-2014 08:44 AM

Time to find a new fishing hole
 



If you keep fishing in a pond that only has a certain type of fish then that's all you will ever catch..

Hell I saw red flags when you said she was a "feeder" what type of example would that be setting for your daughter? Sorry but if she's a "feeder" then she prob has lots of other self issues. That's a whole other can of worms. Get it? Worms < fishing ^ lol

Other words find a better fishing hole!!! One without "feeders"




dirtygirl 12-19-2014 09:12 PM

What is a feeder
 
???? what is a feeder ???

Canadian Black Breeder 12-20-2014 11:44 PM

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Originally Posted by dirtygirl (Post 69608)
???? what is a feeder ???

It's a BBW who keeps eating, and eventually, if she's lucky, can make money from putting on weight, and parlay that into BBW porn.

dirtygirl 12-21-2014 10:07 AM

Thanks
 
Well im a piggy but no thanks to the porn part lol
:p

Mustang Alley 12-22-2014 09:53 AM

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Originally Posted by dirtygirl (Post 69643)
Well im a piggy but no thanks to the porn part lol
:p



goodness. You're not that type of foodie!! Sends illustration. Lol.


dirtygirl 12-22-2014 10:54 AM

OMG whose fat
 
If she sat on him shed break him in half lol

don_dadda 12-22-2014 04:19 PM

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Originally Posted by dirtygirl (Post 69560)
To me i think that you already know the answer in your heart.
Mot being judgemental and all - if you were ok with it you wouldnt be in turmoil.
You are not OK with it from what i gather so let it go
So many women out there

Best answer I've seen. Not to mention as Mustang said.. she probably has other issues as well..


Just roll on brother

Canadian Black Breeder 12-22-2014 05:31 PM

Thank you everyone, I appreciate the advice, feedback, you ever see me in chat, ya'll come and say hi.

dirtygirl 12-23-2014 10:07 AM

Canadian
 
Hi
Hope you turmoil eases
Have a fab xmas
x


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