I'll bet on this forum, most women love the excitement of being controlled. But in general, women feel very differently on this subject.

When he takes control, it's not like I really have any decisions to make.
If he's in control, it's not my fault.

I guess he has to make the decision if he's going to rubber up, or not.
why do I always have to be the decider?

its always going to be bareback isn't it? I have never known a man who willingly will wear one . and certainly never a black guy will!!! I'm not complaining neither is my slutwife

Love being taken control of and being used and abused x

I retain control, but give it up to a certain extent.
 

I am a Cuckoldress and I always control white cucked men including my husband, and I never have penetrative sex with white cuckold men either... but with Black lovers, that's a different story. I like to let them take control and do with me as they please, unless it's something I absolutely do not wish to do, then I just say, I don't want to, or won't do that, or not at this time, and there is never a problem. I enjoy Black men using me as they desire! :D

yes a black man should always have the control over me and fuck me so he want me to fuck, and use me like i am - a white slut for black kings!!

Not totally - I don't like being spanked for a start and I'm generally not into rough stuff like hair pulling either.
Yes, I like him to take charge and be in control but I also like to be treated with respect and not just like a piece of meat.

bareback only for all men
 

Most men just think they are in control but most women just let them think they are. Men just keep in mind we women control all the pussy and the best blow jobs in the world . If we didn't allow you to enter our pussies, ass or mouth for our enjoyment you wouldn't. You may have a nice cock that we might want. But at the base of that cock is a nice soft sack with two tender nuts inside. All it takes is to rap our hand and fingers around it and squeeze in a crushing action and you will feel so much pain and possibly pass out. So next time you think you are in control as we spread our legs or allow you in our mouth just think about this as we reach and fondle your nut sack of who is in control.

I think it is important to be submissive. When I am I feel needed and the man I was with made sure I was satisfied-it seemed that was more important to him than his own. I dont like to make a man feel insecure and I want his respect

I agree with blondforreal's viewpoint.

White wives should feel a bit submissive with their black lover. However, she's right in that the bull should strive to make sure he satisfies his married partner before reaching his own peak. Otherwise, the image of the black bull's sexual prowess and reputation is tarnished.

My Black bulls sired my twins. Yeah, picture that. They play with me as they please and I love it. But I with I could have more control outside the bedroom.

It's exciting and suspenseful not knowing what is going to happen next.

In the relationship and the sex I have with my white boyfriend, I’m the one in control.
We for the most part have sex when I want to, though he can often convince me.
He’s very sweet and loving and romantic, and he knows how to push all my buttons.
And I need that in that part of my life.

The sex I have with black men is totally different. I see it as an escape from my control.
With them I just want to give myself up totally. With black men I don’t want any sweet talk
or romance or tenderness, I just want to be taken. And that’s where the cuckoldress side
of me comes in, because I get a thrill from having my boyfriend see me in such a vulnerable
surrendered state. I like for him to watch while a black man with a cock twice the size of his
pulls my hair and slaps my ass and calls me a bitch and a whore while he fucks me senseless
and fills my pussy with cum. Fortunately my boyfriend enjoys watching.

Giving up control is exciting and a huge turn on.

Having someone you love, understand and enjoy seeing your transformation
from their “in control” partner to a control less sex crazed black cock whore
is probably an even bigger turn on. because then it's about more than me.

Of course even when I "give up control” I’m the one who decides when and where,
and I’m the one who allows it to happen,, so,,, hmmmm???? Oh well as far as the
guys know,, I’m just a bouncy sex toy to be played with and used as they wish.

So, they're the ones in control,, right??

I love being controlled and used
 

I love giving up control, being used, abused forced and shared

yes
 

God yes totally love it.

Being submissive doesn't mean we don't call the shots. We allow you to do things upto a point. No still means no. Having said that, a safeword works wonders.

Giving up control
 

There is so much a difference between sex with white men and Black. White men will take the lead,but are slow and gentle with you. The blackman will let you know that he IS in charge! I surrender to this and willingly obey his directions. The force and agressive nature overcomes me so that I allow him full use of me. Of course there is the size issue and color of his skin. Knowing that you are a white married woman opening up your married pussy to be used by a blackman. His full thursts and depth iswhat turns me on. He is showing me what being FUCKED is,not making love by hubby. My pussy is always open to BBC. for that reason.

i know someone who'd like to find out

Usually
 

Almost always love it when he is in control. Not into extreme pain. But, a little abuse, humiliation and shaming makes for a wonderful experience. Make me squirt with pleasure. Please.

Love it
 

I love giving up contriol to my Lovers and doing everything they want of me. Really like guys that just show up at my home in need and expect sex from me!! I have cancelled dates with my husband to be with other men, holidays, weejends, etc. Favorite is when they shre me with others!! J (the wife)

Yes please!
 

I guess it depends on the chemistry for me. Usually when I’m comfortable with someone I’ll let them just take full control but then there’s some you meet where it just felt right to submit on the first time. It’s something really hot and primal about just having to take what they want with you that always gets me over the edge lol

NOPE! I can tell y’all this if anybody and I mean anybody tries to control Me whether inside or outside of the bedroom…well let’s just say that they will be a painful and rude awakening on their part here!

I love big black men, my favorite position is missionary. Him on top my soft white legs spread wide, the weight of him pressing down, then when he flips my legs over his shoulders, I am completely helpless , as he plunges in and out, I'm a rag doll to what he wants, I cum so hard, can hardly breathe, God I love it

I think you have spoke for most of us its not to much to expect this
Roxanna