I've never fucked in front of someone's hubby (don’t know that I’ve ever fucked someone’s wife truth be told). I'm not really an exhibitionist and I'm not sure I ever will be. Maybe if he's hidden/sneaking watching us, that might be exciting. I think 1 on 1 is better because you're 100% free to do whatever you want and really enjoy it to the fullest. Let loose! I can imagine that in some cases hubby might have "rules". Maybe no kissing or maybe it's wear a condom or maybe he doesn't want you sucking the guy's dick, etc. Or if you're looking like you're in ecstasy he may get jealous. Screw that, if you're going to do it, do it 100%.You're the one doing it, it's your fantasy. Take a MA pill, stick your tongue down his throat, wrap your lips around that thing. If that's what you want to do. Enjoy the entire experience. If you want to be this uninhibited then hubby can't be there. But that's just my opinion lol

Action!
 

I was with a couple one time a long time ago, and the husband was like he was directing a damn porno flick. Fuck that :mad:!!! Then with another where the husband only liked to sneak and peek, but not actually be right in the room looking. Over all those years, I met only a few (less than a handful) one-on-one. Was surprised when they did it because I could have been an axe murderer or something. But of course . . . I'm not . . . I just "murdered" that white pussy is what ;)

Lol yeah you’re definitely gonna want to be sure of who you’re meeting

See, I think thats a cop out and on some levels racist too-the whole "I need to be there for her security"-GTFOH! What happens when a man meets a women and they go out an then they fuck or not? There's no SECURITY. I know that rape isn't about beauty but I know you've seen some of these dudes wives-nobody wants to rape them at all.

I don't know man . . . there are a lot of mean and/or mentally disturbed people in this world doing a lot of cruel things . . . I don't think that a focus on security is a "racist cop out" at all. You have to take care to know who you're dealing with. And that goes for all the parties involved.

I remember reading about a story years ago where this guy got together with a couple he really didn't know very well at all for a threesome. They ended up slicing his penis into halves like a frankfurter! I also recall the time when I met this couple for the first time at the designated spot. Walked over to their car where they were sitting in the front. They asked me if I wanted to sit in the back while we talked. I declined stating that I preferred to remain standing outside. I didn't know those people! Wasn't about to get in their car! They seemed a little put off at first. Well, I ended up fuckin' the cute 'lil blonde wifey bareback back at my place later that night (nutted in her too) . . . but that's another story ;)!

Then there was the time I went to meet this white chick, again in the parking lot of a designated place. I get there and see a black guy sittin' in the car with her . . . now who the hell is this! She get's out of her car and walks over to mine and explains that the guy is supposed to be her "brother" . . . what the hell :confused: She asks if I want to follow them back to her place? I'd already made up my mind quickly HELL NO, but I said yes just to start the process of getting rid of them. So, we set off with me following . . . until I make a quick right turn and head back to my place across town LOLOL! I get back and find that she's left a nasty message on my phone cussing me out and calling me a this, that, and the other HAHAHA :p! But, I didn't give a got damn! I'm not stupid. Both "size" and SECURITY . . . including MY OWN . . . matter LOLOLOL :D!!!

Hmm 8-4 so far with “hubby watching” in the lead. I am somewhat surprised...

I'm not . . . fits right in with the reality that I know . . . I would be surprised if it were the other way around! By the way, as of this writing it's 9-4 in favor of hubby watching.

OK I'll admit something. I originally joined here because I wanted to find a white girl or some white girls that liked black guys. The one's that like to fuck long and often. Maybe we get serious, maybe we don't. Looking at all the pics and names and stories I thought to myself "jackpot, there's some freaks on here." Lol, seriously though. I pictured this huge group of white girls and black guys who all intermingled and it would be easy because we are all here for the same thing. Now after being here for years I see the different "tasks" that are expected of the black guy and it's not exactly what I thought I was getting into. I've chatted up a few people, only couples and I've always chickened out half-way through the "getting to know" process. It's weird for me. I just wanted to have good sex with a white woman.

I Believe this is one of the reasons why Odide wrote his post. As stated before I've never done the "cuck" thing and I do find it a little weird lol. I don't really know the motivation behind a couple wanting it. I kinda think the wife just wants some black dick and is getting it however she can but hubby, idk. It very well could be just as Odide pointed out. I mean, what is the motivation for a hubby to let a black guy fuck his wife, video it and "brag" about how much she came, or how big the load was from the guy etc. as if it's something he did himself? . I'm all for being someone's boy toy (well, man toy) used only for sex, but if I ever thought or found out that the real feeling for the woman/couple was one of ownership and not special friend, boy friend or the like I'd be embarrassed and angry and probably would end the friendship. This also makes me wonder what's the protocol to make sure I/we are comfortable with the couple? The "choosing" process seems to be traditional as far as the woman or more often these days the side with the woman (the couple) does the "screening" and wants to feel comfortable but what about the guy you want to put on display?

Strange as it may sound some women prefer to be blindfolded or wear masks so they can overcome this shyness.

Feel free to try sex with your husband while "hidden in such a manner. Who knows it might make you feel less inhibited and wild.

One wife I know feels her mask and her lingerie are like a superhero costume. It turns her from being an everyday mom into a hot little fuck machine that is a legendary lover. While she's wearing her sex costume she's invincible.

For some women heels do the same thing... go figure!

I hope this helps. You should enjoy sex.. make it fun.

The Lifestyle and The Why
 

Well, as you discovered. This kind of lifestyle is not for meeting white women for one-on-one sexual encounters. Many newcomers to the scene make the same mistaken assumption to the contrary. Virtually all of the women involved in it come attached to a man. I did some thinking back, and I may be missing somebody, but I can recall only one white woman I ever met through the lifestyle who was completely single and not attached to another man in some way. She was a marine, so maybe that had something to do with her "bravado". And BOY did she get wet LOLOLOL!!!

But staying serious though, and to focus on the cuck lifestyle and why people do it. There was a white guy on another site I used to frequent who I thought put it the absolute best. He said that typically, the person in the room who's being the most honest about why he's there is the black guy. He wants to get that "off limits" white pussy. It's the white people who aren't being totally honest. Now, I have my own strong beliefs about why the white people are in the room, and I've expressed those beliefs before right here on this very site. But, rather than going there again and speaking for white folk, this time I'm going to leave it right here.

Again, I ask the question. What about all of the women that are out here fucking like it's going out of style? I've met females in the afternoon and they were asking me to come over to their apt/home later in the night-later on in the week-later on in the month or couple of months and theres no security. I've had sex with 2 white married females on my present job; I've had sex with them on the job; Ive had sex with them off the job; I've had sex with 1 of them in the house that they shared with their husband on 2 occasions and there was no security. I've never had a female invite me over for sex and then say "wait let me make sure my security's in place", LOL-thats prostitute shit. Greater still, if I wanted to rape their wife it wouldnt be shit that they could do about it.

Sounds like they used and trusted there own judgement and trusted you. Apparently they were correct in doing so because they were safe, as is the case with any type of dating for the most part. Of course bad things happens sometimes but it's rare by comparison. It's no different with interracial dating. There's nothing special to do just because "it's a black guy" lol. Just do whatever you normally do when meeting and dating people. If it happens to be bringing a third party then do it. Also keep in mind that the male half ought to exercise caution too. Men have been known to be on the wrong side of a set-up on several occasions. At least that's the case in here in Detroit.

I get that theres evil people in the world and yes women do have to be careful about the situations they put themselves in to but like thick stated I would be concerned about my safety, considering white peoples treatment of Black people all over the world. When I was younger I talked to more white girls due to how I got around in clubs and parties and such. Not all the time but some times they wanted to go baxk to their dorm or apt and chill; they would drive me back to their place; they didnt wait for security to escort us back to their house, lol.
These "husbands" make up the excuse of security, I guess to make themselves seem less intrusive, but if you want to watch then say that; don't make up lame ass excuses because at the end of the day if I'm not getting paid then you can't watch me, lol. What kind of man do I look like fulfilling another mans fantasy for free.

Hmmm, interesting. That’s a good point... Aw shit, wait. The guy, the camera, the public display. Dang, it’s kinda exploitation huh? Smh I’d like to think the intentions aren’t that but damn. Ok so hubbys there living vicariously through the black man, ig? He approves the guy allowing the act to happen so in a way he can take credit for the wife’s enjoyment. “He” did this. Maybe. But, why can’t it be a private affair between 3 people? Why does the world have to see the vids and pics etc? At the end of the day it's fun for me to explore this world. This may sound fucked up but I don't care really. This isn't a complaint , it's an observation. We all have our own motivation. Not saying that I will be part of the exhibition but hey, to each is own. Just be aware of the situation you're about to getting into and make your choice.


Now I'm also starting to realize the "role" I/we play here as far as couples go. In this world, for whatever it's worth the black man is the prize, especially when it comes to couples so I'm thinking the way we go about things should be at the least revisited. The things that are expected of us are far greater than what we not only expect but what we actually get. Looking at the whole thing, the experience means more to and is generally more pleasurable for the couple. Of course both sides are enjoying great sex but come on. This is a fantasy come true, for the couple. Yet we still go about it like it a traditional courtship. If I'm your fantasy, if I am the one to fulfill your FANTASY then maybe I have some demands too. As it stands all I get is some pussy. That's very lop-sided considering you can't get pussy without giving dick so that alone is a complete and fair trade, almost. The woman still gets the most enjoyment but that's fine by me :). Couple bring other dynamics to the situation yet the benefit for the man doesn't go beyond "getting some pussy". The exhibition has to be worth more than a nut.


This is fun to talk about lol.

wife watching
 

My wife was never going to "cheat" on me by going behind my back to fuck some other dude, but she did wind up taking strange inside her married white body while I was watching. She was very adventurous when it came to our sex life and would do just about anything I asked her to, but she wanted to do it while I was present and watching.
The couple of times that I sent her out by herself to be used didn't really work for either one of us, so that didn't happen very often. My wife enjoyed sex very much and she really got off on giving me cream-pies! I think she really got a kick out of performing for me in person.:p

Actually, pretty much all of the couples I did it with were very frank and upfront . . . which is the way it should be . . . the husband wanted to WATCH that shit and sometimes join in! Yes sir! No excuses for why he was there!

Word!
 

The dick carries value too! You got women acting like they're doing you some favor because they gave you some pussy. Well, what about the dick? The dick is worth something too, and something that she derives pleasure from. The problem is that we got so many SIMPS who will do anything for some pussy that they've tilted the balance in favor of the pussy. The dick carries value, and you as the black man have "demands" too. I remember I had one couple telling me I needed to do this, that, and the other or else it wasn't gonna "happen". Hell, I walked! I've never been desperate for some pussy, and never will be. I got feelings too LOL :o

Lol true true. 25-8 at the time of this edit. I wonder if there are any women in the 8 group that are in Michigan lol

Well, no man thinks their woman will cheat on them but it happens and happens often and if the women is in an abusive type of relationship she's not going to tell the husband that she's cheating unless she's caught in the actual act. I can only think of one time where a wife I was fucking told her husband that she was cheating on him.

Not me. When I get messages on here it's like they present their wives as some sort of special gift, that's the bait, then they get around to watching and make statement similar to “I need to be there for her security I'm not gay or nothing" Come on dude! Secure what? Your wife doesn't even look good (what I'm saying to myself).I state the same thing now as I stated back when I asttended some bullshit swinger parties; if you want me to fuck your wife then I need to interact with your wife. I don't interact with men sexually on any level, even if I know them.

Well, people do what they want to but I can't lower myself to fit in to another man fantasy.
Think about it like this; if an old, ugly, out of shape whote woman comes up to me and says I'm interested in you and I want to have sex-THE ANSWER WOULD BE NO! So if an old, out of shape white guy comes up and says I want you to have sex with my wife while I watch-THE ANSWER WOULD BE GET THE FUCK OUT OF HERE-unless I'm being compensated monetarily. I look better than the husband-I'm in better shape than the husband-I make more money than the husband-but the husband is going to “allow“ me to fuck his wife? LOL, YEAH-UHM-NAH!
What kind of man is dependent on another man for pussy?
What kind of man allows himself to be watched having sex by another man?
What kind of woman stays with a man that feasts on the sperm of another man and ducks other men?
Can't be money because the vast majority of these couples aren't rich or even comfortable.

The Internet
 

The internet has been one of the absolute worst things that could have happened to the lifestyle. It's just made it way too easy for fakes and frauds to do what they do. I mean, before when it was paper and pencil and sticking a letter in the mail in response to ads in swinger magazines, a time-wasting fraud would actually have to WORK at jerking people around. But now, well we all know the drill! Trying to find "for real" swingin' people online is just a HUGE waste of time that brings very little return. I say bring back the local swinger mags because just like politics . . . ALL swingin' is local!

I've always enjoyed 3 somes but it's so hot when wifie rings you at work and tells you shes in bed with a black man. I also sometimes enjoy my wife sleeping with one (or two) black men while I sleep in the spare room.

Some of both
 

Over the years I've watched (something that I enjoy), I've participated, and my first wife did 1 on 1 more times than I can count. My wife was as close to a nympho as you can get and still be a housewife and mother. She just plain loved to fuck and be fucked, she didn't have a preference black, white, Asian, etc.and the bigger the cock the better.

Her very first was a black man I worked with that thought she was my sister and would come to our mobile home and spend the weekend with her and fuck her like a girlfriend, I usually just listened to them when he was fucking her,and after "dating" her for several months he asked to take her away for a weekend "camping" for the opening day of trout season where we live and we agreed that she could go with him for her first real 1 on 1, and when he showed up with a motor home and his 40sh uncle ( she was just 18 at the time and my co-worker was 24) she almost didn't go, but after discussing it with me as to how my co-worker had been conducting himself with her she felt that she would be ok with the both of them.

She did have 1 on 1 with my co-worker , and she also had 1 on 1 with his uncle and with the uncle's son that showed up during the weekend, she told me that the 3 of them also pulled a train on her that lasted for most of Saturday evening and that at around 3 o"clock in the morning the son got her up and took her out to the couch and fucked her 1 on 1 again. Sunday was a repeat of Saturday of having 1 on 1 with each of the 3 of them through out the day, into the evening. What I really know is that Sunday evening I had a well-fucked young, white wife returned to me with "hickeys" all over her breasts and neck and a very pink, stretched well fucked pussy. And on top of that she was very tired and very happy that she had went. She told me later that night after I had some well used pussy that it had been a completely different experience with me not being there and truth be told she had really enjoyed herself with all 3 of the men as if she was an unmarried woman enjoying her get away weekend date.

That weekend led to a discussion about her being able to do 1 on 1 if she was comfortable with whomever she was with at the time. While she wanted me to be there or around and sometimes participate she said that she wanted the option of 1 on 1 if the situation came up and I wasn't around. We agreed that it would be ok, but it would be good if I knew where she would be and who she was with, just in case something happened-but nothing ever did happen over 35 years of this lifestyle. The men she was with just enjoyed some fine, married , tight, white pussy and most wanted to date her if she could be available. GTR

I've played alone with 1 woman as her husband watched tv in the front room of the house.

I've played alone with 1 woman in their playroom as her husband & children slept in their bedrooms or while her husband was out of town for work (with his permission).

3 other couples, the husband & I took turns with the wife or each had one end of her.

1 couple, I played with the wife while the husband played a video game in the same room.

I'm not surprised. I enjoy being watched, especially when it is white men other than my husband that are doing the watching. It's a major turn on for me to be having sex with a black man or men and look over and see some white guy jacking off with that look on their face....Becky:p

Yeah nothing better than making white guys go crazy with lust watching a big black cock sliding in and out of my pussy knowing they can't get a piece of me - not much fun fucking a black guy in "private".

I'll fuck the wife right in front of her husband, that's the cost of admission really.

But i'm not gay/bi so he's not allowed to touch me, at all while I'm fucking his wife.

Plus if I don't have to see him while I'm fucking her that's usually good, especially if he's jerking off. So usually hubby is off to the side or behind somewhere.

Usually if he's working a camera, he'll be moving around, but they don't usually masturbate while using the camera so that doesn't bother me either. Married couples need PROOF the wife ducks black guys so she can get more black guys inside her right?

As long as I get to fuck the wife, I don't care. Period.

My wife
 

mandingoman1972, as I have been following you postings, you strike me as the type of black man that my wife would have truly enjoyed. The first thing would have been that your interest in her married, white pussy and your intent to get your big, black cock into her and to fuck her until she couldn't hardly walk would have been just fine with her.

Also for you to not have a problem for me to watch you fuck her would have been one of our favorite things as she always wanted me to be there if everyone was OK with that. I know that I would have enjoyed watching you give her a thorough fucking. Just a thought. GTR

same here... and do that regularly

Show Off
 

So you pretty much get off on making us white guys watch while your luscious white pussy is wrapped around some black man's cock? Damn, my kind of woman! Too bad you don't let us use you for sloppy seconds, oh well, I get off on watching these days:D

I love hubby watching and even helping fluffing me if needed,,,,,that's my power, it's not the same if I am like being dominant, role playing, and talking dirty, and making her cream and moan in front of hubby.

Great Topic, good feedback!
 

First time I’ve seen this thread, it’s been an eye opening experience reading how many of the black men feel about this. First allow me to give another husbands thoughts on the “why?!”
On August 14, we’ll be married 34 years and our marriage has never been stronger, we both are enjoying time together and have experiences that were amazing as I’ve shared some of them here in our pics. Sadly when we were first married I was not as secure with her and worried that she’d leave me for someone else. She was a sexual diva in her youth and she had the body that dripped and oozed sex, she wore the sexiest outfits and was very confident, she’d experienced other guys behind my back and a few with my permission. We took part in a threesome with a coworker of mine and soon after that I watched her do a DP with two of my friends, but never with a black guy, the reason was her upbringing, she was raised to think it was wrong. The entire taboo factor is what inspired me to talk her into it as she worked in Baltimore and was constantly getting hit up on by black men. Finally as we were nearing our 40’s she’d finally given in to try it. She actually arranged it and n her own with a guy she met on a business trip in Houston. The next day she called me to say she’d done it and it was really good for her and she’d be willing to experience it again back in Baltimore. That’s when I joined and actually met a friend on this site. We met and they started hanging out on their own or with me at clubs. He didn’t like to be watched and I respected that. We met some other guys who were cool with me watching her, and let me explain, seeing my wife with someone else is a real rush as she becomes someone different, her inhibitions fall away and she lets loose, as she’s gotten older, I like how she sort of transforms back to her youthful sexual diva days, it’s actually good for her and I like what these guys make her feel better about herself.
I’ve never tried to participate or give orders on what they should do, I just watch and if I can, take pics so I can appreciate the moment later. I posted pics not to brag but to show encouragement to any couple who may be in the same situation, that’s why I comment a lot and share some lengthy stories, not to brag or talk a bunch of crap, but to encourage others who would like to experience this but don’t know how.
It’s a mutual respect amongst all three involved. I’ve never used the “security” excuse nor forced myself in the room, my wife’s been on her own with her friends and the trust is there that she is safe with them. Our regret in all of this is that we waited so late to experience this lifestyle, my wife often says, “I wish we were doing this when I was in my 20’s!”
I’d vote for hubby watching but the votes been closed for quite some time!

Hub Watching
 

With Hubby watching of course

I don’t have restrictions for my wife, she can let loose even if I’m there but she may have certain restrictions but it’s up to her