figuring out her intensions
 

New to the forums, and appreciate any help

I think my GF knows my interest in getting her blacked, as she has been enjoying black dildos role play and IR porn . I asked her if she likes two dicks during role play and she said yes, but complained about black dildo as being a rubber or fake . When I asked if she would like to try the real one. she said no. I am not sure if she is into this for me or she really wants to be blacked but hesitant to confess to me . Apart from direct discussion, is there a way to figure out what is she really into.

Honestly the best route is direct discussion. To me it sounds like she enjoys the idea and she really enjoys how much it gets you going and the fantasy of it, but not so much ACTUALLY doing it. It's a huge step that shouldn't be taken without some thought and very direct conversation about whats ok and not ok, and what each other expects to get from it. Make her feel safe in the relationship that you are a team no matter what, and you won't change your mind about here if she does go through with it.

Thank you for the reply. Appreciated

Exactly. Communication is key. Both of you need to be open and honest about what you want.

How about seduction, like an email from a BULL , or link to IR porn , just to test waters and gauge her response when she is alone.

Yes direct discussion is a big step and not sure how to start it.

Do you think she'd tell you if she got a suggestive email from a bull? Or an IR porn link?

Only if it is coming from anonymous ..that I control. I don't think this is the correct way to deal with a partner however may be intriguing to test the water

Okay. I agree that it's not a good way to go about finding her intention or desire but I understand your curiosity. The old "what if.." scenario.
It could that it's just the fantasy that excites her, along with the black dildo and she doesn't want to go to the next level. You might buy her a higher quality dildo, too.