Ghost friend requests
 

What's up everyone. I guess the purpose of this thread is to gain a little insight on a certain issue that's been bugging the hell out of me since I joined this sight.

People who have ZERO profile content that send friend requests!

Maybe if you just joined ILI then I could understand the lack of content, but I just received a friend request from a member that has been here since 2010. I know there are a lot of profiles out there that are fake, but seriously what makes you think I would accept a request from a user who is obviously here just to lurk. What would I gain from that? It's lame because I would actually like to meet a REAL mature white woman that wants to meet or just chat and I've yet to do so. However, I have had plenty of ghost requests.

I'm sure this has been the topic of discussion before, so sorry if this is redundant.

Yea I figured that much, which is why their requests never get accepted. It's a real pet peeve.

The little ghosties are annoying, particularly when the profile doesn't give gender, race, location, etc. etc. If I get a friend request from one and when I message them back for more information, they go into limbo until I hear more.

And then denied if they don't give me anything to work with. How difficult is it to post some basic info? Some of us on here wish to meet up and correspond with real people!!

Understab But Wait!
 

I agree with you all but only to a point. There are some of us who have to hide who we are.
I can not or will not post pics here; see profile as to why. Yes, there is a little about myself on my profile, but somewhat vague as I myself stand the possibily of loss of marriage. My wife isn't interested in the lifestyle nor would I push her into it. However, sometimes one needs to be private just a little so that they aren't exposed.

Oh, and it's not just men doing this here.

The majority of them are men.

I understand the anonymity aspect. Why do you think I don't have any pics of my face posted?

But when people have profiles that provide no information and no pics whatsoever, then that's when their friends requests get denied. Like Rosie said, some people actually want to meet in real life.

Thanks, 87168. As for the individual who uses a "ghost" because he or she is hiding from a spouse, there is a difference between discretion/anonymity and being on the sneak. If one wishes to dabble in erotic chat but no actual meet-ups, there is a line for that in the profile into. No harm, no foul, and nobody's business but one's own. Actual meet-ups and physical contact by someone in a relationship involves the other person whether he/she knows it or not (this covers the "cheating wives" threads as well) and raises serious issues spanning basic trust to STDs.