Husband and Wife; How do you know when it's the right time
 

Husband and wife here writing this.
What we want to know is how do you know when it's safe to allow her to have sex with a BBC?
As in we want to know how do you know when you can do something like that and still be safe in your relationship?
We've been together about 20 years and are very sexual and always have been.
We have AWESOME SEX! and just like to do spice things up here and there.
We've only been with each other since we've been together so this would be very new to us.

We just wasn't sure if there were ways to tell if it would kill the relationship or things to look out for in our current relationship as to avoid something like that?
And it's not that we're really doubting ourselves as much as we just want to make the right choice and getting a little advice on helping us do that.

Like I said we have great sex and have for the past 20 years. A lot of the time we have sex about 5 times a week.
We started watching some IR porn about 10 years ago and it was an instant turn on to the wife so then that became an instant turn on for him.
We've been talking about having her sleep with a black guy for at least 7 years now if not since we first started watching IR porn.
We've just never seem to really do it, but we both would love too, but like everyone in a relationship we're just wondering if it would strengthen our relationship overall and sexually or destroy it.

We've thought about rules we've have if we did it. How we'd have it set up, how she'd dress, and a few other details of the ordeal. We want to make sure we'd have fun and keep it within our boundaries.

So, how do you know when the right time is to do something like that without ruining your long great perfect relationship?

Any real help or advice would be much appreciated.

All I can say is
 

All I can say is it's a personal decision between the two of you, If you engaged in pre-marital sex, when you started a family, how did you know "the time was right"?

Just do it
 

She'll love it. I promise. He'll love it too. My husband LOVES watching.

ready
 

If yall ready. Dont. Will change yalls. Life. Some for the better. Some it get so bad. Seen jelus break couples up.

Wtf!! "If you"re ready don't"
 

Iowa!!!' .....

I'd have to agree with notact, that's up to the both of you and your comfort levels. I don't think you can really anticipate all the aspects until you go through with something like that. I'd say communication throughout is a must. Good luck!

she will love it
 

thirty years of girl friends and three long term . be honest what you want . and be sensitive to her. set it up and make sure the bbc is the kind of guy she is attracted too

Everyone is different. You have to make sure that your relationship is strong, and that you both talk about everything to each other. It can be a very exciting thing. I have done it with a few girlfriends and a ex-wife and all enjoyed. Some more than others. No secrets between each other. Trusting each other, and having a BBC that is dependable and cool. Don't play at home until you know the BBC and are comfortable. Don't pick a BBC from work or next door, if things don't work out can be a little weird. Twenty years is a long time, you two sound like a good loving couple and will be okay. Remember this is about sex, nothing more nothing less. You two are what's important and this can and will keep the fire in your already hot sex life going strong.