BDSM Anyone?
 

I've been lurking around this place for some time now (thank you to all who have friended me), but have only posted once or twice. Recently a couple female friends and I have begun exploring the local, Northern California BDSM scene -- we've only just started to scratch the surface.

I haven't seen much written about this topic on this site since I've been onboard. So here's my question(s)... Is there any interest out there? Are there any willing subs, looking to be controlled by a dominant master? Does the idea of being tied up and blindfolded, without knowing if the next "stroke" will be from the flogger, the whip of a cock appeal so anyone?

Just curious.

That is hot!! I am not really the submissive type but I do find the idea of being sub or serving a mature white woman to be extremely sexy.

B/d s/m
 

Bondage has always had a certain appeal to me. the problem is finding a partner you can trust 100 percent.

Yes, trust is key.*You need to find a person who will respect you and your limits, while also understanding that they only have as much power over you as you allow them to have.

As I explore the world of bondage I'm finding that trust, respect and honesty are actually at the core of it. Anyone who's just looking to abuse somebody just doesn't get it, and should be avoided.

no. calif cuckold couple seeking DOM w/e black lover
 

Hi yes ive always wanted to explore bdsm with a black man i have had many BBC and love em ! i to live in sacramento thanks

BDSM Anyone?
 

Yes, the idea of being tied, naked, blindfold, helpless - and awaiting the next blow across an already-sore bottom is appealing! The sudden crack of pain as the cane hits me...then waiting for the next...

Of course, a trusted partner and a 'safe' word are essential.

Afterwards, as I contemplate the red welts across my bottom, I feel very feminine!
I surrendered myself, gave myself to him....

Yep but type of play. Nothing to extreme but thats how I do the do......

I'm a white male who has long, since grade school, been turned on by women dominating men. White women who date black men fit very well into numerous D/s fantasies of mine. It's without doubt the main reason I come here. Nice topic.

Dear Alley/Abby:),

Everyone seems to have their own definition of "BDSM". I usually refer to my interests as D/s or F/m. But I'm figuring that a woman must have at least a little sadism in her if she likes to dominate, top, or adminster discipline/physical pain to males. (Like whipping his ass with a strap.) And a male probably has at least a little masocism in him if he submits to any sort of pain. (Like having his ass whipped with a strap...or having his dick teased and denied.)
Just my thoughts, of course.

Could you expand on what you meant by saying " never S&M" please?

Very good point!

But IF you have a trusted partner wouldn't the safe word become less essential?
To me if you trust someone enough to play without the safe word then you have come much closer to truly surrending yourself. All of which makes D/s play more interesting/exciting in my opinion.

Still looking for a local BBC to explore BDSM with?

Does really rough sex count?
 

I have engaged in really rough sex that at times incudes choking, hair pulling, slapping, biting, arm twisting, and really hard pounding, etc (sounds like a WWF wrestling match lol). Its always consensual of course but my question is does this fall into the sadomasochist realm? Some women like some pain with their pleasure, and I do aim to please.....

Oh yes! BDSM is an essential part of my sexual desires and experiences. I am intensely submissive and the thrill of being naked, helpless and subjected to the whims of another is incredibly arousing. The act of complete submission to another for his/her pleasure is so fulfilling.