Lovesex3320 |
10-15-2012 09:22 PM |
In all honesty this, I think, is the best answer I have. When my husband and I got into swinging we both talked about how we would feel about it. How bad others would think of us if they found out. Are we crazy for doing it? The answer is really simple. ALL people who enjoy sex would love to actually have sex with others they find attractive, but they fear society and its judgement, so most people won't participate in the lifestyle. Those of us who do participate find out how enjoyable it really is and how normal we actually are. Those who don't, well we realize they re actually missing out on great fun and making some great friends. There are a few jerks who come along, and I am actually having to deal with a forum stalker on here as you can probably tell, but for the most part we have really had a great time. Now we have gone to a swingers party once and we met a couple we played with and the guy disrespected me so badly that my husband was going to beat him up, but others kept him from it. The swinging club environment is not for us, as we discovered. We prefer to actually get to know people before we hop in the sack with them and do so in a private. Anyhow, in our time of swinging I have met several black men that have in no way subscribed to the whole BBC superiority thing. They just love having sex with white women. And I have really enjoyed them. Yes there are women with no confidence who like to be abused by a man. Yes there are men, black and white, who abuse women. Yes there are men who are shallow. Yes there are men who only think with their dicks. Yes there are jerks. Yes there is racism in all races. But you know what? There are wonderful people in all races who just want to get along and enjoy each other. There are guys with huge dicks that aren't arrogant. There are guys with small dicks that are. And vice versa. It's the individual that matters. We all have to sift through the jerks, the arrogant people, the racists, those who have issues. But, again, for the most part, it's been really easy to find good people in all races who are just truly enjoyable to be with in general and that's what my hubbie and I are in this for.
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