Marital Dynamics
 

As a mid-30s brotha who got into white women rather late in life, I have been pleasantly surprised by how many white women find us desirable. I was 29 when I was with my first one. She was single. I have since had three other interracial experiences; two of them were married. Of the two married white women, I was seeing one "on the down-low" and the other was with hubby's full knowledge and approval (or at least acquiescence). The married one who told her hubby about us hinted a couple of times that her hubby wouldn't mind being a passive onlooker to our recreation time. She made it clear that he was straight. I wasn't totally comfortable with that, and after I did not respond a couple of times, she stopped mentioning it.

What I am curious about is how many white females are in relationships with white men, but see black men primarily for physical pleasure and to what extent their "significant others" are aware. Also how common is it for hubby to be involved and to what extent. I know that some white women get started by a hubby or B/f who encourages and sometimes even sets their meetings up.

I really have not experienced any type of interracial relationship with a mwf other than just she and I. In both cases, a pretty strong friendship developed, even though neither of us had any expectations that the relationship would become committed or exclusive. IOW, my sense is that I was more than a "BBC", but we were not and were never going to be in love.

Comments?

My hubby isn't really involved in my "playtimes". I have his blessing, but he's ambivalent about watching or being involved. He always knows where I am and who I'm with, which I like.

I currently have what seems to be a good thing going with a local guy here. I do consider him a friend, and we exchange regular emails that cover many different topics. I am not the type to want one-night stands with a guy I pick up that night in a bar, never to see again after. I would prefer to at least stay friends, and cordial, even if the "playtime" side of things ends.

A guy is never just a BBC to me. I have to be attracted to him as a whole before anything happens.

One last thing: I love my husband and am not looking to replace him or downgrade him in my life. I will never lead the guy in to think that whatever we have will be something permanent / committed. And I expect openness and honesty from him in return.

Bump
 

Does anyone else want to weigh in?

Our lifestyle
 

We are very much a committed loving couple. We have been together for 17 years. The last two we have been living as a cuckold couple. She sleeps with who she wants, when she wants, where she wants. Her only limitation is that the men must be black. She has absolutely no interest in white men. She has one of those, and does not need or want another.

Hubby knows, and supports this lifestyle. There is no cheating. There is open and honest communications. It is common for her to be with a liver at least once a week. Sometimes more, seldom less. Hubby will watch from time to time, or wait at home. He will always clean, but not always be able to feel. That is her decision.

Extreeemly patient-kind-selfless. Those are just a few of my husbands attributes. He taught me the need in the man equals that of the desires in the wife. Both must be met out equally. If they are to be fullfilled collectively. And as you see when a hot wife is passionately enjoying the bonds of oh so sweet ribbons of rapture with her Black King Companion- well- the need for the hubby to see the wife fullfilled and her need to be fullfilled are both tremendously great and strengths tested to the uttermost. Wherein a bond is formed between the hubby and wife that cannot be easily torn assunder.

We have been married 7 years and have been swinging for 4 of those years. Currently I am involved with a black man on a regular basis. My husband has full knowledge of any encounter I have. Sometimes my husband is present and sometimes he isn't. For me it is all about the sexual pleasure, but I do most definitely need and emotional connection as well. Most people are surprised when I tell them it has actually made our marriage stronger.

not always friends
 

A lot of the black men that my wife got involved with over the years became close friends, often taking her out to dinner and some type of event, show, movie etc.. Many times I was involved with them. There were several occasions of her going away for a week with her current lover for a vacation. The largest black cock ( a actual measured 11" and soda can thick) actually lived with us for almost 3 years, this was after our son had moved out. Heywood was as much a husband to her as I was and he often took her many places as husband and wife. GTR

My ex and I had the same deal. I saw her with him but that was not a prerequisite. We enjoyed expanding our sex lives and we knew where each other was all of the time. If she happened to find someone when I was out of town, she would call me and let me know where she was and who she was with. It was a deal that we made. We were just helping each other enjoy life a little more!

I have been seeing a black man, with my husband's knowledge, once or twice a week for about two years. We have an emotional connection and enjoy each other immensely. Husband is not involved with us and doesn't care to be. He just knows that this relationship is something I need and he is supportive of me doing it. It has most definitely made our marriage stronger and my husband and I share a bond that I think most married people don't have with each other.

It seems to me you women are married to some of the most spineless, bitch made "men" I've ever come across. These pitiful motherfuckers actually let y'all run around on them, sucking dick to and fro, calling that shit supportive? Gtfoh. Unless these clowns are getting pussy on the side, that's a bullshit deal. If you tried that shit on me, I'd get me a lawyer, divorce your ass and put you the fuck out my house- be real tempted to break your damned neck for even coming at me with that shit. I know y'all will say, "But, we agreed to it!"-- I just can't in my life see myself or any other self respecting man going along with such horseshit, unless I get her "support" in fucking around, too.

Changed my mind
 

2hereknowswhen, I was going to respond to your rant about a subject that you obviously have no knowledge about, but I changed my mind and only wondered why you are a contributor on this board. But we both know the answer to that don't we. GTR

That was hardly a rant, my friend. I just find the shit rather perplexing....but, hey, DO YOU. You like it, I love it.

I do give my husband the same freedom as he gives me. It's a completely open relationship. Whether or not he chooses to exercise that freedom is up to him, but he does have it. I wouldn't expect it to go any other way! What's good for the goose...

I salute you! That's how it's supposed to be. I've been on this site for quite some time and some of these folks talk like they've got the game fucked up. If you're off getting it in, then I'm for damn sure going to be.

I can't disagree with you. Fair is fair.

Come on man, tell us how you really feel about all this!!!

There are too many fakes
 

This married couple plays together. I have given her the freedom to play by herself, but she is not interested in doing so. We were best friends before getting married and have been together for 10 years.

She has told more guys than I have to get lost, because they act stupid and think getting down is will be like the cuckold porn videos. Yea right. I especially like it when the guys say that they are bisexual and when they are called on it they back down.

The only guys that we occasionally see are the bisexuals or couples. Straight single guys are really not worth the hassle. Once my wife put on her strap-on and told a guy to suck my dick while she fucked him. The mother fucker bolted out the door and unfriended us later that night.

Marital dynamics
 

I married an older man and as time went on he slowed in the sex department. He suffered from ED. Our sex life was once or twice a month. I was 49 and still wanting a full sex life; a coworker who was living with her black boyfriend and would hint to me that the sex was the best she had EVER known. I of course became curious and they took me to a club. I was nervous,but danced with several men. I just could not relax enough to follow through with the reason i was there. we went again and I met a man who i felt at ease with. He didinot rush me and i warmed up to tje thought of me going with him. The more we danced and talked it became not a question of if i would ,but when? My friends needed to leave ,so He told them he would see me home. I did not reply,but knew i was going to be with him. We went to a motel and i was scared as we undressed and i saw how large he was compared with my husband. I wanted to leave ,but was afraid he would become mad and possibly hurt me. I complied with his request to give him oral. I rarely did this for hubby an /never allowed him to empty into my mouth. however as I was doing it to the man I somehow enjoyed it. Maybe it was the thought of crossing the line with another man or just the thought of it being a Black men. Either way i seemed to get into giving him pleasure with my mouth and i felt him push at me and he came in me. I was into a state of disbelief as i swallowed it. We rested and then he layed me on my back, i knew this was it. I was going to cheat . He entered me slowly and I was surprised that it didn't hurt . He allowed me to accept it and we began that in and out stroking. I was beyond

furst time
 

I had never been so excited sexually after a few strokes. I was into place i had never been before ,or even knew exsisted. We spent 3 hours together and i was sure i wanted more of this. We began meeting on Saturdays for the next 3 yrs. My husband and i continued having sex occasionaly ,but I felt bad knowing that I was cheating on him. i finally told my husband what was going on. He was surprised and saddened. i told him that it was ONLY SEX, nothing more . Bob seemed to understand that ,knowing his condition and our age difference. I assured him that our marriage was strong and Would never leave him. Bob accepted this and gave his blessing to adventure. He aked if he could be there sometime with us. He watched us many times after that and sometimes he became erect and we had sex after i finished . Our marriage became stronger I believe ,as we grew together as a couple . He knowing i was happy and fullfilled in a womanly way, He knowing that he was confident in our trust together.

We sit somewhere in the middle of this.
We have been together for 5 plus years, both divorced and second time around.
Told her when we first met I had thing for 3 ways, especially with black guys.
She had passing interest in black guys having dated one guy once.
For us it’s just simple fun, we meet a nice guy she likes, get to know him and then let it progress from there. We tend to have only one guy we see on an occasional basis. We enjoy a social aspect as well so it’s not just about using him.
We do this as a couple , that’s the deal, no slinking off to have daytime meets, or private text conversations. We are very also clear on this with anyone we meet.
We had one guy text her at work one day wanting to know if she was free for lunch and some play time. He was dropped straight away.
We do this together, it’s for fun as a couple.

If she strayed and did it alone, even if she told me, that would not be cool.
Same applies to me. If I want an extra girl , the option is there for us to have an extra girl join us.