Well I've been working on this for quite awhile now & i can say that I'm having to work through some things with her.
First is the notion that sex is dirty & not to be talked about. She was taught this growing up, & I see now how deep rooted childhood lessons can effect people.
Second, she tells me "size dosent matter to me". (I know she is saying this because she does not want to hurt me) We have been using a 10" dildo about once a month for about a year. At first her attitude was, "I'm doing this only because YOU like it" but in time, she has gotten to the point where she has really violent orgasms when we play like this & now she LOVES doing it. I recognize that she is TELLING me one thing, ("Size Dont matter") not wanting to hurt me, but her body is telling a completly different story.(Wanting a bigger cock) She absolutely loves getting it deep & hard and begs for it deeper while I lick her pussy. I know her well enough to know that once I get her here, she will love being fucked hard by a big black cock & its my hope to someday have her a regular "Friend" she can count on to fuck her in a way I cant. The key for her is going to be making it
HER idea.
To answer your question hep, no, no habit of "Zoning out" Sorry about rambling, just thought I'd give a little background info.