Helen, it's a sweet thought and a marvelous fantasy for any fertile white wife (who is into serious IR) to contemplate. But when fantasy meets reality, everything can change. We would all want you and your hubby to be acceptive of your black pregnancy and look forward to having a coffee-tanned baby to add to your family, to be raised and loved as your other children would be...all without having to hide the fact that you became black pregnant willingly.
The problem is those outside your family and what they might think...and do. Surprisingly, there would be some who would be sympathetic, while others would be just the opposite. You would probably lose some friends, while gaining others.
In the end you will have to balance your innate urges to become black pregnant with the social consequences, not the least of which is the potential racial stygma the child itself may face being in an all white family under less than normal .
The issues are significant, and the answers woefully inadequate. Unfortunately, there is not enough track record of couples in similar circumstances dealing with the same issue...and how they survived it. If more couples had the courage to go through with what you are contemplating, we would see the unseemly issues dispensed with....I hope.
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