keep trying?
I'm in a similar situation, sort of. I'm 32 and she's 30, we've been officially married since '06 and we've been together exclusively since '98, so a long time (effectively married 12 years) . I've fantasized about her cuckolding me with black men for almost that whole time but never said anything about it until about two years ago. Finally, I started introducing the concept through random conversation, through sex fantasies and porn, and finally just spat it out and told her. She was shocked, perhaps didn't believe me immediately. She rejected the idea outright. I still try, most recent this last weekend 1-15-11 but she shuts me down as soon as it becomes a subject. What's weird is the sex is still good after such a conversation, maybe better than before, but I can't tell if my persistence has had any effect whatsoever either good or bad. I wish I could give you better advice and info, but my attempt has failed and resulted in a shutdown of the entire subject with her. I'd say keep trying but I myself wonder whether it's possible to convince a wife of many years who knows you are honest in your desire to do such a thing.
We aren't religious we are 'devout' agnostics, so there are no religious barriers for us, I don't think religion or faith is the real holdup here.
Good luck, maybe she's different.
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