Generally speaking, if there is a behavior/attitude I want from my wife I do 3 things:
- I tell her, directly, what I want
- I introduce it into her regular hypnosis session
- I use basic behavior modification to reinforce what I want
To me, this has some advantages. I am not manipulating her since as part of her submission to me she has consented to my making changes in her and, I don't have to work as hard or wait as long to see the changes I want.