[hephaestus]

If your wanting to understand his point of view this can only be done with directing communicating at him and with him because he's your husband and we're not right. Because anything other than communicating honesty, now at the stage your at and in a way have already past You really need to both sit down and discuss what it is you Each want out of this. Be ready to test and retest the waters to second guess yourselves by making sure very specifically what you each want at every bend in the river. Because you are both together in this and to remain secure in your relationship you both must make yourselves and each other communicate because the more you can do that by sorting out what even seems like fine details stops any future doubts from building up. As soon as you feel a sense of doubt or a gut feeling that you each are having doubts communicate. Imagine your paddling down a river together and what happens when your paddles aren't working in unison. Split and chipped paddles is what your going to get.