That's a basic problem with virtually ALL sites like this. Bi-gays and wannabe cuckolds take over the place and essentially ruin it for all of the for real folks here. This is why I rarely ever put in much effort to try to meet anybody through a site like this anymore. It's just too much work weeding through all the fakes. It's a high volume, low margin business!
I don't know how you can really prevent it from happening (men pretending to be women) short of requiring proof positive identification, which in turn could be too much of an invasion of privacy for many people, including for many for real folks who want to keep a certain level of anonymity.
At the very least, I would support a policy of no bi-gay posts. It's not that I hate bi-gay people. It's just that I don't care to be consumed by what interests them, and they should be encouraged to post on sites that cater to their interests, as opposed to usurping every site out there like this one. There are plenty of other places for them to post, but I know some get their jollies by plaguing a site like ILI.
I am a member of another site where there does happen to be a no bi/gay-oriented posts policy. It's been enforced 100% for many, many years now, and it works from the standpoint of keeping the site clear of those themes. I suppose somebody could still come in there faking, but we don't see a lot of complaints like on a site like this one, and I think it's because the enforced no bi-gay posts policy takes the fun right out of it for the bi-gays who would come in there fakin'
So, they steer more towards easy targets . . . like ILI!