What I'm reading is that I should take more time to talk it over to be sure. But my pole is stating everyone wants me to just bring some black men into my bed and just enjoy.

Trust me, I really want to experience it. Most people try to have lots of sex before marriage so it is out of your system. I never did, so I am curious. If I cross the line, can I ever just go back to being a normal wife? What about swingers? They seem to enjoy it. I need more advice. If you think I should just let them men in and enjoy it, tell me why. Give me a good reason to just go crazy...