It's Unfortunate
It is unfortunate that most of the struggle in the lifestyle, and this cultural side of it particularly, is figuring out who is a player and who is playing around. Now, not all of us are at the same comfort level. Some who are not yet experienced are as determined and genuine as anyone who is in many cases. Many can relate to the doubts and trying to decide when to dive into the pool. However, it does seem that the vast majority are either game players, fakes, or truly hopeless wannabes, The last is the wannabe group os husbands who THINK they want to see their wives plowed by BBC after BBC but don't have the guts to ever bring the subject up with their wives. From those of us who did go there and all, "go grow a pair and be men already." They waste so much time and patience. Yeah, others on the bench - as genuine couples - might have hesitation that gets on peoples' nerves, but they are real and trying - and the wives want the D.
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