I think it's both, depending on the person. Some are born submissive, or are submissive from their early upbringing such that they know no other way.
As for me, I have been made this way. I began masturbating at a normal age, around 14, but my first sexual experience was with another guy. It was a "truth or dare" thing where we went to dares, discussing neighborhood girls, and once naked, he dared me to put my mouth on his dick. It took me a while to work up the nerve, but I eventually did. We played a bit then, and got into it more on other occasions, but I was NEVER attracted to men, just the wild crazy sex (and because no girls were available).
In college, things were different, and I hate dates galore, somewhat regular sex with women and girlfriends, met my future wife, and have been strictly with her for 20+ years. There was never an issue with both of our sexual fulfillment until the last year or so. I have developed diabetes and high blood pressure, and also Peyronie's disease (plaque buildup in the penis which causes mild shrinkage, some disformation, and an inability to hold an erection).
Needless to say, I can no longer really satisfy her. I'm not sure whether it is my desire to see her satisfied that has let to my interest, or the change in my own hormone levels, or what, but part of me wants to be humiliated and treated like a sissy bitch in front of her and her black lover.
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