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Originally Posted by whtgrlangel

It's funny to me, maybe ironic is a better word, that black women these days prefer a black man who is light skinned and most white girls including yours truly prefer black men who are very dark.

Most of my black boyfriends over the years have complained to me about their black wives or girlfriends about being too hard on them, too demanding, too high of expectations but not willing to support them in their goals and aspirations. I don't think that black women are bad for black men in general, but I do think that black women should be more supportive and understanding of their black men if they really want them to do well in life.

One thing I have learned from my mother is that men, no matter how smart they are, need the support and confidence of their wives in order to take the risks necessary for true success. Lots of men are smart and have the potential for success but young men especially lack the confidence to always pursue every dream and every angle. It is a loving and supportive women who many times encourages her man to stand up and be strong and can make the difference between a mediocre career and a successful career or entrepreneurial endeavor for their men.

If my mother had not shown complete confidence in my father's ability to make good choices for our family, they would not have moved from Italy to the US for his career and I would likely not be speaking English nearly as well as I do now nor would I have a faint southern draw mixed in with my obvious Italian accent.

Black men in particular already start off their lives behind others because of what slavery, then socialized bigotry, then the welfare state each did to destroy the African American family unit. When a black man succeeds in America, it means so much more than when a white man does. Black men must be smarter and bolder to achieve the same level of success as a white guy because he works twice as hard for the same level of achievement.

The biggest difference I see in white girls vs. black girls is that white girls have no interest in telling their black boyfriends what to do or how to do it. White girls just enjoy their company and are more about the relationship and not the guys career. Black girls seem to be more controlling and more demanding of their men. I think that they want their men to do well but they put too much pressure on them which can sometimes make them withdraw out of fear of failure.

Let us honor our black men and show them that we have their backs. White and Black women both should try harder to support their hard working and intelligent black men and support their decisions and their initiatives and entrepreneurial endeavors whether we agree with their professional choices or not. If black or white women want successful black husbands and fathers, turn them loose, support them and let them soar.

Just my opinion

Blackmen have tried for years to make the blackwomen more submissive but we simply dont have the Money to do it. The whiteman has the Money and has successfully turned his whitewoman slutty/submissive the way he wants and she wont mind losing her own self respect over it. From the Days of slavery we have been cut off from that true social link we have had with blackwomen and it still carries on to this day. Its like 2 people in 2 different countries doing business but there is a middleman involved and so you cant do business directly because someone else is controlling it. We have lost that Connection with blackwomen but i can tell you one thing is that a blackwoman is far more understanding to me than a whitewoman because she knows exactly where im coming from.