well there are two ways this works. either the guy is single and just trying to get some kind of hook up on his own, or he is married but she's not really down.
second scenario is what others have said - the man is the screener and you have to deal with it.
it's frustrating because everyone is different and some men want total control of the entire scenario. and some of the single men want to just get in and get out as easily as possible.
it's important to note that aside from the bi and gay men who are using these forums and ads as a way to satisfy their cravings - every person, couple, etc. is very different. sometimes you have to be very patient within reason before they are comfortable. i've seen it go from email to sex same day and i've seen it go for months before a woman was ready because the connection mentally was very vital.
but if you're in this lifestyle thinking that you're just going to show up and knock boots with some guys wife, gf, partner, fuckbuddy or whatever without passing some level of test you're not going to find much success.
Again, I understand the frustration with the single men who have guys constantly wanting to see their junk and "meet first". It's so blatant and I've been there when I was the single guy in the lifestyle. Gets old fast.
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