secret?
Simple for me. There is no such secret. We are open about everything and our lifestyle interests among them. Will we share the same interests all of the time? Of course not. But we both respect each other's as not deviant but sincere. We do share most of them however.
It has been pretty clear that the vast majority of men who are active on online cuckold sites harbor the fantasy but have never told their wives, and probably never will. Those men probably really wouldn't handle the reality of a cuckold experience well, despite their strong affinities for the fantasy. Certainly, if you do not have the honest and clear communication with your wife yo the extent that you are comfortable discussing this, you should not consider seriously playing the game for real. It's not all about manning up and having the guts, but also having the relationship and the wife who can respect and relate to your desires, even if unwilling to fulfill them in this way. That is not to say that broaching the subject is easy. Even in our case, it took a day to digest and figure out if or how to proceed. A number of other hotwife couples we know started with just the swinging lifestyle before realizing that hotwife/cuckold was the best fit for them.
Every married man should share sexual fantasies with his wife. If nothing else, you learn more about each other and might only follow through with role play fun along the lines of the fantasies. Sex is all about fun. It shouldn't be stressful and a married life is too short for secrets. I don't know your wives, but drop a hook with some bait on it. Maybe not hit her with the totality of your fantasy, but explore. Even if she is religious, sex does not have to be bland. She might not want to welcome another man into bed, but there are things to spice it all up.
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