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Originally Posted by JandGinSD
How committed is your relationship if you feel you have to trick your wife/gf into playing with another man? You run more risk of it all blowing up on you doing it this way than just manning up and having that awkward conversation with her about your supposed needs and desires pursuant to this. It all works out great in fantasies, but real life is usually different in this regard. If you are really that close, or want to be, you need to lay the cards out, as does she. If you cannot or you end up incopatible as a result, then you are both wasting time. A woman will generally appreciate honesty and confidence more than anything else in a man. This proposed approach demonstrates lack of both of them. But if you do drop it all on her, there might be shock initially. Give it time to sink in and don't push things. Hotwifing is not the sort of proposal most women will eagerly jump right into with both feet. Good luck.
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The word "cheating" was mentioned and your response, Jand, is right on. There should be no deception between husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend. If my wife was not already on board with extra-marital sexual encounters, the two of us would have to have an agreement. Why would I set my wife up to do something she did not want to do?
I sent an old friend into the house. He wanted to talk to her about something. I knew that she was in the master shower and would be getting out. I simple told him that she was in the master bedroom. To his surprise, she was naked. And, she also was surprised given she was startled but, quickly recovered. He got his questioned answered and more. In this case, she was unaware but we are always looking for encounters together and this one just was a surprise.
Communication is necessary to any relationship. If one of you disagree then the answer is no. Both must be on board or cheating occurs.
My wife does not ask permission to be sexual with others. She already knows that I've given her permission. Not that she needed permission but that we both agree on this subject. She tells me about her sexual encounters; no deception there. If I call her when she is out of town and tell her to go to another hotel bar, she will know that she will be approached; if the guy does not chicken out.