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Originally Posted by JandGinSD
It might not have been in the plans, but this is an omnipresent possibility throughout the lifestyle - swinging, hotwifery, cuckoldry, open marriages, ... Every new friend or lover is a unique indivudal and the social dynamics can go in many directions among the participants within such ensembles. The question really comes down to whether one's wife is capable of a polyamorous arrangement or can only tolerate serial monogamy (like the woman who marries, divorces, marries, divorces, ...). Some women can treat their lovers' love like the love they have for their children. A second ches and the first born's love from his or her mother is indiminshed. Similarly, there is not a scarcity of love when it comes to her penetrative lovers. The new bull can become a focus of tremndous sincere love while the husband loses no stature or affection in the process. How rare this is really is the consequence of our social paradigm. The sharing and independence, when rationalized and brought to fruition is extremely personally liberating. Jealousy is the consequence of playing an ownership claim on a spouse rather than making him or her a life companion, boosting what satisfies his or her life too as part of one's own. But too many others cannot grasp compersion and are overcome by social order and guilt or jealousy. It comes down to hwho all three in the situation are as individuals.
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Completely agree with JandGinSD and can relate to this from my own experience. It depends on the circumstances and the individual lover, for whom in my own case, there has been a great deal of sincerity and affection over a period of time, which has in no way posed a threat to the close bond and love between myself and my husband.