[JandGinSD]

Your erection isn't the only thing that works. You could give her oral sex or play with toys. In fact, it might be a good idea to use toys to perhaps relight her pilot and make the proposition more palatable to her.

If she is loyal, as you say, she will go unfulfilled and not cheat, knowing you are also unsatisfied. If you spring it on her to date other men, without any context, she may very well be offended or think you are testing her fidelity, Play with toys and keep the communication up. You are ready when you will naturally tell her that you would greatly prefer to see her taking it from a real man rather than just a toy instead of telling an anonymous public forum, like here. Let her know you love her and that nothing would please you more than knowing she is being sexually satisfied as you would do with her, with the bull (hate that term actually) being your sexual proxy.

She, like many other women, might insist that orgasms are not everything and she can go without them. But if she does go down that path, I assure you that the most important thing after her date is that you shower her with affection and approval and LISTEN to her and her feelings. She might feel dirty and guilty, wracked with worries and regrets, and needs to be assured that she is wonderful and you love her as much as or more than ever.

Good luck, but be careful and manage that communication. Don't run from each other's sincere feelings.