Why embarrassed about what you like?
I STRONGLY believe it is disappointing, perplexing and almost that a mature, seemingly secure, mature man would be embarrassed because he's turned on by the thought and idea of HIS lady being royally fucked by a black bull with a big thick cock! WHY? What exactly is your motivation, reason and intention behind your voyeuristic desires? Is it about HER pleasure and satisfaction or YOURS? THAT, I believe is the fundamental question AND determining factor deciding the appropriateness or inappropriateness of ones desires.
I consider myself VERY fortunate in that I am an AWESOME lover, whether it be a "one night stand" or a continuous "loving" relationship. I am sexually satiated ONLY when I KNOW my partner is! I naively thought that was the "norm" until female friends of mine felt comfortable to confide in me about their sexual frustrations (including my BEST friends girlfriend whom wanted to fuck me without his knowledge or consent) I have done a lot of "fucked up" things in my life but betraying a TRUE friend never was or will be one of them! At the age of 57, I know all too well that I can count on ONE HAND, IF I'm lucky, the number of true friends I am blessed with in my life! My code of ethics is you NEVER betray a FRIENDS trust! Furthermore, if my woman does not respect our relationship to the point of wanting or needing to go out and get fucked by other men, why should I expect a complete stranger to? My problem is NOT with him, but HER!!
God made sex the 2nd strongest innately driven, primal drive next to eating for a reason! That being to insure survivability of the species. Why the hell do you thing it is so pleasurable?? NOT because you are supposed to torture yourself with self denial! Nor are we supposed to feel guilty for our desires. I firmly believe our culture is tragically influenced by religiously driven, irrational, dangerous, cruel zealotry when it applies to sex and sexuality!
In a nutshell, when it comes to the appropriateness of one's sexual behavior or actions, I simply say, CHECK YOUR PREMISES! if is is selfish and only about YOUR satisfaction I totally understand your hesitation, embarrassment and confusion. If it is about the pursuit and desire to provide ECSTASY, than what the fuck are you waiting for or give a shit what others think or say? FUCK THEM if they don't approve!
Peace,
Dr Art
Innate provides and so do I!
GWG
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