Originally Posted by Blkbeast12
Blue Ice,
If you are looking for outward, "obvious to the world" signs of a woman interested
in having sex with you, it's not going to happen (aside from some of the "marks" and hints" already mentioned in this subject thread). You are going to have to MAKE CONTACT with someone you see in the store, at the mall, at a movie theater, etc. Hell, you can even make eye-contact across a crowded room and smile at your intended interest; if she smiles back, there's your invite to approach and speak. Now, if the first sentence out of your mouth is "I want to f8ck you," nine times out of ten, you are going to get rejected...even if they are initially attracted to you physically. Adhere to the following rules, and I PROMISE YOU, your success rate will increase dramatically:
1) Be COURTEOUS...speak to her like you would want a man to speak to your mother, sister, or a woman that is important to you. "Excuse Me," and "May I have a moment of your time" are two of the BEST ways to get a woman's attention and interest in speaking with you. If she stops to engage you in conversation, tell her that you wanted her to know that she caught your attention, and you had to let her know how attractive she is. Her reaction to THAT ONE STATEMENT will give you a pretty definitive indicator as to whether or not she would be at all interested in "getting together" with you.
2) Be PATIENT... ask her to meet you for lunch somewhere or for drinks after work. During that "first rendezvous," ask her about the "best romantic experience she has ever had." She may tell you about the love of her life, or a one-time date, but either way, you now have her thinking about intimacy. If she tells you about some guy that "rocked her world" in the bedroom, then YOU ARE IN THERE.
3) Make CONTACT; during your interaction, touch her shoulders, her hands/fingers, or place your hand at the small of her back (at the WAISTLINE). You can even do this during the first contact, if you lean in and whisper in her ear when speaking with her.
If she doesn't FLINCH from that contact, that is always a VERY GOOD sign. If she starts to reciprocate the "casual touching," that is another good indicator, that your chances are good for "more touching" to occur.
3) Be WELL GROOMED with EXCELLENT HYGIENE. - Despite the "thug appeal" fad, very few women interested or curious about being with a black man will turn down a brotha that is clean cut, well dressed and smells "So Fresh and So Clean." REMEMBER not to OVER DO IT with the cologne or body spray...
4) Be CONFIDENT. This one, you've got to figure out on your own...for me, it was putting on 20lbs of muscle during my senior year in high school. You don't have to be a "muscle guy" to draw attention from the ladies (although it definitely helps!), but do your best to be in the best shape you can. Plus, being physically fit or athletically inclined will ALWAYS improve your Sexual Endurance and Stamina. All in all, just realize what your own strengths are and play those up.
Now go get yours...
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