[jimbrowski]

I've always maintained that if someone is doing something deliberately that would make you jealous is someone that you can do without. Now, feelings change and its normal and rightful but if it's becoming a problem after 8 years then you should consider weaning off of that lifestyle or getting professional help. Sex is SUPPOSED to be fun; so whether the whole "wife needs me to be in the room to feel safe" notion is accurate and your increasingly jealousy after 8 years; it has to be some psychological issues. You guys may just be getting older and if you plan on continuing in the lifestyle you definitely need professional help. I personally couldnt be with a women that wanted to fuck other men even if she acted as if she needed me but thats just how I am.