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Originally Posted by blondeforreal_2
I kind of feel like you. We talked about swinging as roleplay but never did it. I dont think I would want him with anyone else but I know he only gets erect now when he pretends I am with someone else so I think he might want me to actually do it but like you I dont want to hurt him but I do want date someone else sometimes. I am still struggling with it I guess
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The only real way to find out is to actually sit down and ask him if he's serious. This is what happened to us, there was lots of talk, innuendo and fantasy and in the end I just said that if he really wanted me to do it I would.
I think that it was a bit of a shock to him as he then had to decide if it was what he really wanted and even when he decided that it was he swung back and forth for a while.
Of course once I'd done it the first time it couldn't be undone and there was a lot of angst for both of us but eventually we have settled into a pattern that works for us.