I have never, ever encountered this issue. You see, when I was in the swing scene, the husband or boyfriend ALWAYS knew! And that's the way I preferred it too. No sneaking and creeping around. No, instead hubbies would always contact me to set up their wives or girlfriends. Or, maybe she called me directly herself. I found couples like this to be the most "real" and the easiest to deal with. So much so that if a woman told me her significant other didn't know, then I would immediately cut her loose and have nothing to do with her again. If I'm fuckin' a married or in a relationship white woman, then the white boy needs to know about it . . . even set that shit up LOL
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