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[ml5566]

That's kind of the situation I'm in. My wife and I are experienced swingers and have been for a few years. We recently dropped out of the "lifestyle" for a break. During this break I suggested we try it again but maybe we should try a black guy one time. She declined. Didn't give a reason just said no. "No black guys." I don't know why this is. Maybe she feels I couldn't handle seeing her with a black man. Maybe she's afraid she'd like it too much and actually become a bbc whore. For now I'm doing nothing . Not sure what to do.

[wscreate]

Originally Posted by ml5566

. For now I'm doing nothing . Not sure what to do.

I understand this. In my case, my wife showed the initial interest in bbc. This was not my idea. I feel I am accomodating her tastes by being open. I believe the ball is in her court. I have shown her I am open to things. If she continues to show an interest and she makes another step toward that direction, I'll go from there. Some have told me it may be a long process. Others say it will not happen at all. It is not up to me, it is up to her. Thanks for your reply.

[notact]

I think the answer may lay(pun) in your third paragraph....


She asked me why I would want to see another man fuck her. My reply was, this was her idea.

What about, "Because I love YOU and want to see YOU happy, if that IS what YOU want"

The other appeal to me is that I wonder if she will handle a bbc as well as some of the women I see on the internet and in pornos.

This could sound like a "challenge" to her.

(I'm wondering if she's had a black lover before you got together, and is "afraid you'll find out", and treat her differently.)

Just my thoughts on it.

[wscreate]

Originally Posted by notact

(I'm wondering if she's had a black lover before you got together, and is "afraid you'll find out", and treat her differently.)

Just my thoughts on it.

Maybe, but she denies it. I am not critical of race in past relationships so that should not be a problem. Plus, when we saw the video of the black guy fucking the white chick together for the first time, she spoke up and said "that is the first black dick I've seen". I was not even thinking about it or talking about it at that time, and I noticed she liked it. So, I don't know if she did or did not sleep with a black guy in her past. I don't think she has but it doesn't matter to me.

[wscreate]

The wife and I had the talk again about taking another man into the bedroom. She asked me why I would allow it and I said that I only want her to be satisfied. She said she is satisfied and, quite frankly, I do fuck her tight pussy right even though I am not porn star endowed. She told me she is not into black guys or asian guys, but she does like to be fucked hard and she admitted she has a fascination with big cocks...(she barely admitted this, it took her awhile). I asked her if she wanted to put an ad out somewhere and she refused again and said under no circumstances. So, as it is, I am putting this to rest for now as I am making no progress.

[pspump]

It all sounds good untill you say its ok "As long as I am present"..... If you want her to feel free to do it then let her be "free to do it"

[wscreate]

Originally Posted by pspump

It all sounds good untill you say its ok "As long as I am present"..... If you want her to feel free to do it then let her be "free to do it"

That might work for you, but it is not what I am looking for and, according to our conversations, is not what she is looking for. And, as it is, she is free to do it without my knowledge. That is called cheating and that is a boundary which I still recognize and hope that she does too. I prefer to keep this within boundaries, that is, we can both have a little play time as long as it is with openness between the two of us, and that I am present. There is also the safety issue of it. I would not feel comfortable having her meeting strangers for sex. If I am there, then I feel she is more safe. Anyway...

[wscreate]

We talked some more about the subject of entertaining another man in our man (her of course). While she admitted she likes the porn where the guy is muscular and fucks the woman fast and hard, she said she does not care if he is black or white or whatever. She was trying to say, I guess, that her fascination is not with the whole "black thing" and more into a guy with a muscular physique with a big cock.

I have let this rest, mostly. However, I do send her porn pics occasionally and she looks at them with me on occasion. When I remain silent on the issue of adding a third to our bed, she does not bring it up.

One interesting development, she saw me talking to a younger woman at a party recently. My wife had done a few shots of whiskey and was quite drunk. She was jealous of the woman because the woman had wide hips and a plump butt as I like. On our way home (walking), she told me that she accepts if I want to fuck the woman or some other woman, but that she doesn't want me to leave the marriage.... that she wants to stay together. So, if I must find some younger woman to fuck, to do it and get it out of my system. I can't imagine she meant it because she was so drunk. I did ask her later if she meant it (when she was sober) and she said that, ulimately, she would not leave me, but she would prefer if I didn't fuck other women.

I don't know where it came from. Maybe some things can be explained away as alcohol induced, or maybe she is repeating back to me what she thinks I want to hear. In other words, if she rewards me with a woman in my bed, maybe she will feel it is okay to fuck another man.

What do you think?
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