do wives get emmotially attached
 

I was wondering if the wives that have gone black get emotionally attached to their lovers or keep it on a strictly sexual level ?

While emotions are involved of course we are trying this more for the physical activity. Married and secure for so long will never jeopardize what we have.

Although I love and enjoy my guys when they are with me...I know that t h ey are not looking for anything but fucking and I respect that. That's really all that I need and we are all fine with this arrangement!

Strictly sexual although I do consider the ones I have had as long term fuck buddies to be very close friends....Becky

yes she did
 

My wife told me that she loved the 2 men that had lived with us and my boss in a different way than she loved me. She was terribly upset when my boss passed away and told me that she really missed Pete (her boss that lived with us) and again when Heywood (The black man that lived with us). At each of these intervals she would tell me that she wasn't sure that she wanted any other men in her life - just me. But a little time would pass and usually someone would ask her to dance at a nightclub or a party or someone she worked with would relight the flame and she had to have them. A lot of the men she got involved with were just for her own sexual pleasure and she had little or no emotional attachment. GTR

Fun Only
 

My wife and I play for fun only. She has never gotten emotionally attached with any of the playmates. She love it that I let her explore her desires.

My wife has 2 regular black "boyfriends" and one latino (Mex.) that she meets often. We do play with other males/couples when opportunity presents itself, but she will see these 3 guys once a week as a minimum, she'll alternate and pick depends on her mood and emotion at that time. She considers them as very closed friends, although she tells me she'll never love anybody the way she loves me, but I sense that she's emotionally attached to these 3 men.
When we play with other people, she enjoys the sex, the fucking and all, but when she's with these men, she would kiss them, caress them, open her legs wider, wrap her legs around them tighter...I sense that's she's not fucking them but making love to them instead. Sometimes I got jealous the most of the time I just got extra horny seeing that, especially sitting next to them in a restaurant knowing his finger(s) was inside her pussy and her face expression was all I need.....

There is a big difference between loving someone and loving to fuck someone.

Playtime with BBC is just that: adult play where there is a beginning and end to the encounter.

Of course, thinking fondly of someone is very important, but that does not = love. :)

Bulls get attached to my whore wife
 

My wife has no interest in any black men beyond getting their cum. We have had two lovers of hers that have gotten attached to her. I get a big kick outta that as a power trip. Since I control her pussy when that happens i have some control over them!

My wife had fallen for one of her boyfriends a few years ago, he was a three time a week guy, taking her out to parties, sharing her with his friend, she thought it was the real thing, she asked him if she could move in with him !
He laughed at her and said" you are a slut , only good for fucking thats it" she was heartbroken, crying solidly for a few days off and on. She realised that he was right. She has been happier with her new B/Fs since.

Sometimes It Happens
 

Occasionally a wife can get attached. Had one tell me she wanted "a relationship". Told her she already had one . . . it's called your husband! Had another one (fine as hell) tell me that she loved me while we were fucking. Said she never really loved her husband and that he had never made her cum even once while I made her tremble and shake in orgasm all night long. And cuck hubby was sitting right there lookin' all hurt and shit (but turned on at the same time) :eek: That was some brutal stuff coming out of her mouth. Was years ago. Often wonder if their marriage (with two kids) survived.

To me there are different degrees of love. The highest is what my husband and I share. It is earned over years of trials, successes, failures, family and loyalty. It is not always burning the brightest but it is the deepest and most meaningful. I have loved a couple of my steady boyfriends to some extent. The way I am this also leads to the best sex. Intimate. Uninhibited. Kinkier. I do things with someone I trust and love that I would never do with a stranger. My husband knows how I feel about this and has been able to adjust and accept it. I have told them both I am the luckiest woman ever.....found and married my soul mate and my ultimate sexual partner....and they are both willing to share.

Soccer Mom FWB
 

My FWB Soccer Mom and I have been seeing each other for a couple of years.
She is a hot blond with an always wet pussy. She loves any type of sex and more importantly is open to most anything.

Her hubby has a small penis and really no sex drive. Basicly, hubby thinks sex is to make kids.

My friend and I dont see each other as much as we would like but when we get together we rock each others world. She likes me to bang her pussy long and hard and loves to suck my cock.

At my urging, there is a neighbor that lives much closer to her that she sees. Just a quick blow job and he either fingers her pussy or eats her if not in the car. I encouraged her to see him since she needs it.

I need to say that I do love this woman and she loves me but in a different way. I could not be married to her. Just would not work. The neighbor, just a way to pass time and have fun. She is a friend to him. No love.

when the eyes roll back, statements are made between your significant other and the playmate that you have not heard before, they're in a different world for hours on end and they don't even know your there.... to one degree or another you have emotion. add to the mix a close flirty friend or develop a long term relationship with the playmate and you have emotional bond. Emotional attachments... love?

My wife does get emotionally attached to her lovers. I do not think she would have sex with them if she did not. It is not the love that we share over a 25 year period. I think for her it is partly about nurturing. Give her a guy with a problem that she can help with and she will get turned on. She likes to feel that he is a friend and that she is making him feel good. She is at her hottest when she knows she is pleasing her man and that is when she has her best orgasms.

for me I admit to an emotional attachment-actually I was falling in love I think-even though I knew it couldnt be

In general, I think women tend to get more emotionally attached to a lover than men but every women is different. I cheat on my husband and he cheats on me so I guess we have an open marriage with a don't tell and don't ask policy. Over the years I have had a number of lovers and currently have two that I see on a regular basis. For me it is just about the sex. I am not in love with either but I do consider them to be good friends and fun companions.

I had one woman get really attached to me to the point where I had to cut it off as it was really, really uncomfortable. It was clearly no longer about sex.

While I've developed real friendships with a lot of men I've known, for me I've always thought of recreational sex as distinctly different from the love I have for my husband. There was a black gentleman I was seeing for a while who did get too attached to me however. There are things you may say in the throws of passion that are just because of the moment. He began to take them literally. He wanted much more of me emotionally than I was prepared to, or able to give. I had to cut him off. He started to stalk me for a while until my husband had to speak to him. I think that it got that far was partly my fault. I'm very careful now about drawing lines.

scamp

black men read the text above and then read it again!

I have fallen and it's tough when you do. Since I don't want to end my marrage, I limit my time with my lovers and don't let myself get there any more. Dont get me wrong, I don't just fuck my black lovers, it's more like making love a or mating ritual..

emotionally attached
 

Of course I get attached emotionally after all I am matting with the man and he is cumming inside me but I wont deny that I love my husband and do not want to end my marriage but doesn't mean I am not in love with my lover also.

Definitely happens.....
 

I am involved in an 8 year long affair with my Boss/Lover and we definitely "love" each other, we say it all the time. But neither of us wants to break up our marriages nor the fall out that would occur at work if we did that either...…….its hard NOT to get emotionally involved if you are seeing someone regularly.

J (the wife)

It's been my experience that married women are more emotionally mature, and can handle a "for sex only" relationship.

As a matter of fact when I first got into banging married woman that was pretty much rule #1 the wives told me is "this is just sex for sex, I'm not leaving my husband, this isn't a relationship." etc.

It's usually only a cheating wife who is maybe, maybe looking for a black boyfriend outside her marriage or something more.

But 98% of the time it seems they just want us for our cocks, as a woman who is married usually just wants us for sex and wants to stay married.

Having said that I am usually permitted to fuck the living hell out the wife as often as humanly possible. Plus I usually only do so if her husband (who I have met at some point) is on board and is in fact, proud of how much dick his wife can take.

Sounds wierd, but, women change over time, their sex drive really shoots up after that first kid. Plus getting to fuck us is a huge boost to a wife's routine life, and makes her feel more alive again.

Hell some wives seem very relieved after they finally get to fuck me after a long hard work week.

I can relate......
 

VERY well to those last two paragraphs!! LOLLOL An afternoon/evening of MASSIVE orgasms brought on by intense exciting sex with a Black Lover who can make me cum over and over and OVER had a definite sense of relief and relaxation after a long hard week at work...…...and knowing I was able to satisfy them also was very rewarding to me as a woman.

J (the wife)

I think it can be so much better when you do get emotions involved with it. I always like knowing the person and having a connection versus just hit it and go.

Definitely!!
 

Emotional attachment makes it MUCH better for me also!!

J (the wife)

There have been some guys I have gotten emotionally attached to before. Some have been easy to keep on a sexual level but I think I have more fun with the ones I become attached to.

A little of both. Almost all the time I become friends with my lovers and there have been a few I have developed emotional attachments for.

A mix of the two. There have been some that it has been strictly sex and some I have actually gotten pretty close with.

Attached? For my wife, that's a big Yes. It didn't start out that way, but, when she began having regular sex with the same man, I could see their hook ups were changing into a relationship. I support her and he's actually a good guy. He takes good care of her when I'm out of town and not just sexually. It's definitely more complicated than it was when it was just about the sex. But, a lot of women are more complicated than men. It all comes with the lifestyle, I guess.


John

Lets not be ridiculous. If your wofe or gf is in love with bbc not only does she become attached. So do you.

There have been both for me. Some men I have been with it has been exclusively sexual fun and never felt more than that. Some I have been with have become my friends and way more than just fun in the bedroom.

Most women get confused with love and lust. All of us on here have many fuckbuddys over the years and some are long term. Some think their in love but all they do is love the moment their in. Sex outside the marriage is just that and nothing more. My husband and I have been swinging/swapping for close to 40 years. Never in that time have I loved anyone other my husband yes many men have made my heart go pitter patter but that is the result of how they preform oral sex or maybe the size of their cock and how it feels inside me. But don’t confuse that with love because you just love the moment. Husbands and fuckbuddys are like shoes, your husband is like that one special pair of shoes that are comfortable and look good and will always be there. But fuckbuddys are like that pair of shoes that catch your eye and after a while aren’t as much fun as they started out and you discard them. When women finally figure it out that fuckbuddys never love you . They just want a warm place to stick their cock and unload their balls. It may be wrong to say but the men we invite into our sex lives are just toys for me. If a man doesn’t bring me to multiple orgasms then he’s like that pair of shoes that looked good on the shelf but made your feet hurt and you discard them. Yes as I’ve said I have had some long term relationships with select men .Because they learned early on it’s about what I want and how to satisfy me. I guess most women are like me because if they ever invented a life like robot that had human oral skills and had that satisfying size cock . And did as you told them we’d all own two.

Yes, of course. When you have a man fucking your wife properly, especially if she’s never had the experience before it can bring out all sorts of new emotions & addictions.
My wife admitted eventually that she felt varying levels of love for each of her black bulls, but with a couple there was a much deeper connection. She said there were many times she either forgot I was there or she just flat out didn’t give a fuck about me at the time.
I encouraged her to love her bulls, make the connection & sex even better.
For us it just made our love for one another stronger.

That is one of my wife's excuses
 

Since I have e.d, I have tried her to take on a FWB and know she is attracted to and has been with black men. One of her excuses for not doing it is. What if I fall in love with him?

Never thought it could happen....
 

My wife and I have been acitve in the interracial hotwife/cuckold for approximately 19 years, on and off. We always had an agreement for me(husband) to be present during meetings for sex with black men. Just found out recently that she had been sneaking around with one guy about 5 years ago and told me she was so addicted to the sex that she thought about leaving me and would have had this guy not been a complete "train wreck" personally. I remember him texting and calling her, which I was never comfortable with. I thought our marriage was rock solid....

No two cases are the same, but from my experience yes! Me and my closest girlfriends are all divorced except 1, and she’s separated soon to be divorced. Yes we all had affairs, yes we all went black, dated black, fell in love and only wanted to be with our men.

Say what you will but from my experience me and 6 of my best friends can vouch for getting very emotionally attached.

Oh it happens.....
 

I understand and respect that some couples aren't comfortable with getting emotionally attached anyone else, in any way. It's their relationship and that's fine. But truth is, there's others who can be quite comfortable with genuine, loving relationships of all kinds. It shouldn't be such a kept secret. Because those who who have experienced the euphoria of getting emotionally attached, know just how good it can be.

To any doubters though, I'd say, if you've come this far, it's because you're not like everyone else's view of sexuality, and think sex with another partner is hot, and sex with an interracial partner it's even better, and if it involves the sub/dom dynamic of a black bull, then its about as hot as it possibly gets?

Well, good news is, it can get even better! that is if you can keep an open mind about where things can go. You just might find that you've been missing out on a whole new level of mental and physical intensity! But not anymore....

emotionally attached
 

Yes I became emotionally involved with my first black I was 42 and he was 30. He took me on dates to black clubs We even went a a vacation without my hubby He was allowed to live with us for almost 2 years I believe I fell in love with him . I had told him I fell in love with him He claimed he loved me also But he wouldn't allow me to leave my husband He had come to know him well since he was living with us. He said he would not allow us to leave and be together I lost him as result of that he stopped seeing me