Cuckold or swingers?
 

Just a question for all out there. Browsing through the site I have noticed, or at least what appears to be a lot of cuckold lifestyle content. Just curious where others stand on how they view themselves, cuckold lifestyle or swingers? For me personally definitely swingers. Hubby is a hunk and plays quite frequently with other women. Our turn on isn't being demeaned or playing the inferior role. Just get off watching each other play. Some of my best orgasms have come from watching him with another woman then joining in to get mine. So just curious

Cuckold
 

Ours is a cuckold relationship. I really wouldn't want to see hubby with another woman and it was a condition before we started that this wouldn't happen. As it turns out hubby doesn't want to be with anyone else anyway.
He gets his kicks out of watching me or hearing about it afterwards.
We don't do humiliation as such (although hubby does like it that my bull is bigger than him for some reason) but we do use chastity.
All our play is consensual - I wouldn't do anything that would hurt hubby emotionally. Much of what we do now was introduced by hubby and the rest we've spoken about and decided to try - some has worked for us and others haven't.

I can appreciate that. I'm glad to hear you two have a solid and open minded marriage. I quite honestly never saw myself doing any of this kind of stuff. Was raised in a rather vanilla household with the "traditional" values. Our swinging basically started by drunken chance. When I realized not only was the world not ending, but I actually enjoyed watching my husband with another woman. Was basically MFF threesomes for a few years then he felt selfish so told me it was my turn. That story is still writing itself lol

We are swingers and have been for 35 yrs and yes I've been shared with many men in MMFMM parties too.

Hubby and I started out as swingers with white couples where he took an active part. Even after I started doing black men he would still join in. It wasn't until I started doing gangbangs that he began taking a more passive part in the activities, just watching and taking pics and videoes. I started out doing white and Hispanics then moved on to white and black gangbangs. When I got to where I was doing black only gangbangs he became what I would consider a cuckolded husband. I was allowed to fuck whomever I wanted to and as many as I wanted to regardless if he was there or not....Becky

Definitely swingers here, we both like to play.

Cuckold
 

I have never allowed my husband to have intercourse with me.

Swingers
 

We are swingers. We both like to play with fun, hot people (couples, singles and groups of guys) and if that means including BBC, great.

I kind of feel like you. We talked about swinging as roleplay but never did it. I dont think I would want him with anyone else but I know he only gets erect now when he pretends I am with someone else so I think he might want me to actually do it but like you I dont want to hurt him but I do want date someone else sometimes. I am still struggling with it I guess

The only real way to find out is to actually sit down and ask him if he's serious. This is what happened to us, there was lots of talk, innuendo and fantasy and in the end I just said that if he really wanted me to do it I would.
I think that it was a bit of a shock to him as he then had to decide if it was what he really wanted and even when he decided that it was he swung back and forth for a while.
Of course once I'd done it the first time it couldn't be undone and there was a lot of angst for both of us but eventually we have settled into a pattern that works for us.

so is he with you when you are with the other man or is he ok with you just telling him about it? I am not sure I could emotionally handle this but sometimes I think maybe it would be better if he knew I wanted to be with someone else for real-but if I tell him that and he is just saying it as only a fantasy for his arousal then it might change things more than I want. Were you the first to bring it up with him? And you said he went back and forth for awhile-what convinced him? And can you tell me if the other men really want him there watching? I worry about aggression and jealousy

The very first time I couldn't do it with my hubby there but he is there sometimes now. When he's not there I'll text and send pics to keep him involved and I have phoned him so he can hear all that's going on.
True cuckolding is hard work for all parties. I need to keep him involved and to ensure that he gets his enjoyment while I'm getting mine and of course the bull his.
It was his fantasy in the first instance but we played along with it on our own for sometime. Then I said to him that he'd run a mile if I did it for real and he asked if I would really do it. I replied that I would seriously consider it if that's what he really wanted, so I sort of turned it back on him. The conversation was revisited a number of times over a period of time before we both finally agreed to try.
I didn't pressure him on the decision but let him come to that by himself, it could have gone either way and that would have been fine with me. On one hand it was kind of exciting but on the other scary.
As I said the fist time my husband wasn't there. I felt more comfortable and it was a big step for me too. After that I have always been very clear to a potential bull that this is a cuckolding relationship and what that means to all 3 of us. If they can't handle that then they aren't the bull for us.
I have only been with a very few other men over the last 6/7 years - We build trust between us and then we have found that we all get what we want.

OK, met a sweet white girl on a dating site. We're both married, sneaking around. She had swung with her husband before, but he wasn't that into it.
We would get together once or twice a week. Sometimes we would both sneak out after dinner and fuck in the car (very dangerous, be careful).
We finally got up the nerve to go to a swing club meeting, and it was amazing, though we both just watched. Second and third times there, though, she participated. (Me and another white guy fucked her together on that third occasion).
Anyway, she started talking to the other women at the parties and one of them told her about a group that hosted sex parties with black guys. She was interested, she said, if I was.
I turned out to be more interested than I ever imagined.
So, no, we're not doing the cuckold thing. There's no degrading taking place or any comments about my penis size (average, on a good day).
My girlfriend clearly loves getting the big black dick, and I love hearing her tell me about it while she's fucking. I was on a business trip last month, and she left the phone on so I could hear everything. Very hot.
Personally, I don't get the whole cuckold-humiliation thing. I definitely think swing parties steered us in the right IR direction.

Just cuckold !

I certainly have other women including black women. Being cuck and bi doesn't make you a wimp.