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[twatcher69]

I have been married for 18 yrs to my husband and we have bveen together for 22. We are high school sweethearts and married after High school. My question is the first time your wife was with a black man did you feel jealous at all. My husband and I are new to this and I have been with one black man twice but both times it was a solo encounter due to work schedules. The only thing my husband asked was pictures be taken for him. The first time only 4 photos were taken (in my defense it's not easy to take pic or video while having sex) the second time a few more were taken but we also did a video of me giving him a blow job.

The first time my husband was upset over the whole thing, even though he approved of it he felt like he didnt get anything out of it. The second time wasnt as bad and he loved the video. Is this a normal reaction for a husband if he wasnt there for the action. I'm trying to understand this from his point of view.

[irfunseeker]

Yes, jealousy is part of the battle - and the excitement - and also the danger. More later but your question is excellent.

[jim1]

Originally Posted by twatcher69

I have been married for 18 yrs to my husband and we have bveen together for 22. We are high school sweethearts and married after High school. My question is the first time your wife was with a black man did you feel jealous at all. My husband and I are new to this and I have been with one black man twice but both times it was a solo encounter due to work schedules. The only thing my husband asked was pictures be taken for him. The first time only 4 photos were taken (in my defense it's not easy to take pic or video while having sex) the second time a few more were taken but we also did a video of me giving him a blow job.

The first time my husband was upset over the whole thing, even though he approved of it he felt like he didnt get anything out of it. The second time wasnt as bad and he loved the video. Is this a normal reaction for a husband if he wasnt there for the action. I'm trying to understand this from his point of view.

Your husband should be there and he will get turned on. I hooked up with a black guy in st. martin 4 years ago for my wife because she loves oral sex and wanted a bbc it turned me on because she loved sucking him off and every night he came to our hotel room and one night we asked him to bring a friend and I recorded her for us to watch when we got home what a turn on for me

[irfunseeker]

Jealousy tore me apart with the first woman I did this with - it ended our relationship. She liked sex with black men but could never bring herself to be married to or live with a black man mainly because of her family. So I could provide cover for her. The first time we did it was together. I watched her fuck this black guy from work. It was beyond hot she was really into it and I got to watch. He decided to wear a condom but that was his choice but I wished he had not because he shot a load that totally covered her body. Too bad they did not have digital cameras back then. I digress. The next black guy she did this with also worked with her but he would not have sex with her in front of me. So she met him at a hotel and spent several hours with him - and when she got home her panties were soaking wet and her pussy full of his seed. She straddled my face and made me clean her out all the while giving me the details of their escapades. Exceptionally hot and so far so good right?

Well I had to go out of town for a couple of nights and while I was gone she had a little party at home inviting this guy to come along. She told me about in advance and I remember feeling way out of control and asked her not to have sex with him while I was gone. Well the long and short of it is she did and she told me about it when I was still on the road. I about lost it with anger - I felt betrayed. She said they got drunk and well things happened. I remember masturbating about a dozen times to the images in my mind but I was really masturbating to help quell the anger. When I got home I was mad but we did not have a real fight but I was mistrustful, moody, irritable, and when she told me she had been to lunch with him over the last couple days that eventually led up to another fight. She said she had plans to see him the next night and I agreed but asked her to return home early well she returned home very late and had no real desire to engage me in any sexual activity. Which made me just absolutely crazy with anger. We had a major blowout fight and she told me she hated me. And with that I pretty much just packed up my bags and left. I saw her around town and we were polite and everything - you know how old lovers can be - but what ever magic we had between us it was gone.

I have changed some since then and the woman I am married to now has had sex with black men in front of me - and every one of those encounters were off the chart hot - but she only really does it for me - but there are jealousy issues still with this setup - but more about that later.

[twatcher69]

Thank you for the replies they are very helpful. I just wanted to hear it from other men that have felt this way.

[scrimdog]

Im not a cuck who wants to feed from his wife after she's had sex with a bbc, however...the first time my wife agreed to having sex with other guys, she came home and told me all about it...i loved it but yes I had jealousy there, thats part of the turn on for any guy...there's a very fine line between jealousy and desire in things like this.

[hephaestus]

If your wanting to understand his point of view this can only be done with directing communicating at him and with him because he's your husband and we're not right. Because anything other than communicating honesty, now at the stage your at and in a way have already past You really need to both sit down and discuss what it is you Each want out of this. Be ready to test and retest the waters to second guess yourselves by making sure very specifically what you each want at every bend in the river. Because you are both together in this and to remain secure in your relationship you both must make yourselves and each other communicate because the more you can do that by sorting out what even seems like fine details stops any future doubts from building up. As soon as you feel a sense of doubt or a gut feeling that you each are having doubts communicate. Imagine your paddling down a river together and what happens when your paddles aren't working in unison. Split and chipped paddles is what your going to get.

[thebiginch]

Will you be posting the phtots and video? Or have you?