May be show her some hot BBC porn where a white woman cums and cums and has some amazing orgasms. I never thought my wife would get off on seeing BBC porn but she loves it and gets so wet and horny. She has pretty much told me she does not want to watch bad porn (small white dick porn) and only wants to see the BBC porn. Her favorite seen is with Kristen Scott and Dredd where KS cums hard like 9 times in the scene.

I never thought she would get so turned on by BBC.

Show her your relationship is strong.
 

I feel like I struggle with the same problem as her. It's all fun in fantasy and to talk about but the fear of damaging our relationship is what slows me down. It's a big step to trust that your partner won't hold it against you down the road, or worse yet decided it's ok for them to start being sexual behind your back as a form of payback. The old "well I let you have sex with a man outside our relationship so now it's ok for me to hook up with females".

You need to show her that she can trust you to not be worried that she will hurt you being sexual with another man. And maybe make it clear this is something you are doing together, and just because she's doing this doesn't mean you have a hall pass to be unfaithful.

You are so correct! My wife was very leery of my objectives when I first suggested this. She said, “You mean you just want to watch, or is this a reason to do stuff on your own?!”
This needs to be discussed and well thought out prior to just, “doing it”, and yes it is something that is done together not for you to use it against her later or justify your own activities.
Very good advice indeed!

Think it is the same with my wife. I have tried to convince her I have no desire at all for another woman and it would make our relationship even stronger for me to see or at least know she is getting what she needs.
Probably the same with your husband.

Help her by taking her dancing good way to meet black men also is he has gfs that take black they will help
Roxanna

go slow
 

My wife was the one who started this, but we both were hesitant. Myths, lies, etc.
She finally took the step and yes things changed. Fantasy and reality are far apart. It all worked out eventually. She got what she wanted and needed and I got off listening and watching. Some lonely weekends, patience and many orgasms later it worked out. Not for everyone.

If she's watching and enjoying IR or BBC porn with you then she is probably turned on by black men. However, she might be worried that if you go through with it you will judge her or it will harm the relationship. She could think you want an excuse to cheat or will get mad later. To most women all this stuff sounds pretty crazy.

Since she mentioned her age she's probably assuming attractive black men won't be interested in her.

I'd keep watching porn with her (let her pick what she enjoys) and role-playing. Don't pressure or push her at all. Just enjoy it and keep reinforcing that seeing her receiving pleasure and being satisfied really turns you on and make sure you are being completely judgmental free. Let her go at whatever pace she wants and be aware she may never want to do anything other than role-playing.

I didn't start to become a slut wife for black until I was 40. Age is not an excuse for enjoying your body.