New to the Interracial Scene
 

Thank you for the website. I'm new to the Interracial scene and honestly would appreciate some insight and what to look for and what not to look for.

I'd say that interracial dating/kink is no different, in my experience, than any other kind. Sure, you get the odd look every so often, but who doesn't?

Take some time to do the necessary work. Understand what you want, and why you want it. Learn how to seek it out safely, and how to vet potential suitors. Experiment with your own tastes and fantasies.

I've had many an excited husband tell me about how he couldn't wait to watch me breed his wife, just to get upset and call off the whole thing because she started to enjoy it far more than expected.

Don't dehumanize your partner, or the people you want to pick. We are not marionettes for you to direct, or order, or command. If you want that, then you may just be a control freak with a race play fetish. That's all well and good- but everyone involved should be properly informed.

Everyone has limits. If you don't have any, then you need to find some before someone else finds them for you.

Talk to your partner, understand what you're trying to accomplish with this new chapter, and be ready to do all of the work necessary to make it happen. The logistics of it all is unsexy to many, but I personally appreciate the effort, and go out of my way to seek people who have done most of the work themselves.

Unfortunately, there are many lazy jerks who say, "I'm inexperienced, and need a teacher" but mean, "I have zero desire to learn anything on my own, and expect a mentor for free, or with little (or no) effort.

Local events are great places for like minded individuals, too. Check out any fetish cons in your area, or in areas you're interested in traveling to.

Thank you for this, it's much apricated. We are not new to the sharing scene just the interracial aspect. He's not a jealous type, he actually seems like he gets the pleasure form me seeing others and him hearing about it more afterwards. It's been great for us honestly but the interracial aspect is the new aspect for me.

It's something that I have thought about for a while and tbh without asking or provoking a response my husband asked why I had never done it.. I know there might be some logistics out of it all but that's part of the fun in it imho.

Again thank you for the response and believe me I'm looking forward to exploring this side.

In that case, I wish you both the best in your search for the partner(s) that will help you turn this fantasy into reality! My own spouse had never been with a black man before me, and they recently talked to me about how they've been almost hypnotized by the contract of my dark skin against theirs.

It sounds like you both have a strong, stable, understanding of your relationship as it relates to your fantasies, and have the open communication needed to keep everyone informed, and that you respect one another's boundaries.

If only more people understood!

I agree i wish more people understood the value of open communication with their loved one. We looked at it as, we are different people still with different wants and desires and to think that just because we are married that we have to like the same things or give up something that we enjoy. Life is short and we want to enjoy it and being open with your loved one about your fantasies and desires... that's just key to it.
My husband told me one time that he would never stop me from exploring and enjoying things. He said it would be wrong of him to say I can't enjoy it because he's not into it or it's not his thing. He enjoys working on cars and playing games, I don't, but i'm not going to stop him from doing what he enjoys.
Anyways sorry for the long winded speach and thank you for your reply and understanding