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Originally Posted by RRTxCouple
Thank you for the website. I'm new to the Interracial scene and honestly would appreciate some insight and what to look for and what not to look for.
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I'd say that interracial dating/kink is no different, in my experience, than any other kind. Sure, you get the odd look every so often, but who doesn't?
Take some time to do the necessary work. Understand what you want, and why you want it. Learn how to seek it out safely, and how to vet potential suitors. Experiment with your own tastes and fantasies.
I've had many an excited husband tell me about how he couldn't wait to watch me breed his wife, just to get upset and call off the whole thing because she started to enjoy it far more than expected.
Don't dehumanize your partner, or the people you want to pick. We are not marionettes for you to direct, or order, or command. If you want that, then you may just be a control freak with a race play fetish. That's all well and good- but everyone involved should be properly informed.
Everyone has limits. If you don't have any, then you need to find some before someone else finds them for you.
Talk to your partner, understand what you're trying to accomplish with this new chapter, and be ready to do all of the work necessary to make it happen. The logistics of it all is unsexy to many, but I personally appreciate the effort, and go out of my way to seek people who have done most of the work themselves.
Unfortunately, there are many lazy jerks who say, "I'm inexperienced, and need a teacher" but mean, "I have zero desire to learn anything on my own, and expect a mentor for free, or with little (or no) effort.
Local events are great places for like minded individuals, too. Check out any fetish cons in your area, or in areas you're interested in traveling to.