1st time post: Need responses from wives, girlfriends (guys too)
 

This is my first post and I am hoping for honest, thoughtful responses from many of you with experience. I hope this initial post is not too long to hold your attention, but I am desperately seeking some answers before I "take the plunge".
My husband introduced me to this site and other similar sites about 2 years ago. We have an active and for the most part, satisfying sex life. Certainly much more prevalent than other middle aged couples.
His most prevalent "during sex" fantasy is ALWAYS about seeing me with another man, preferably a well-endowed black man. I knew that he enjoyed IR porn and we began to watch it together and to look at the pictures. At first, I did it mostly to please him, but after a while I became intrigued. The amateur movies that were obviously real were the ones I found most fascinating.
I should mention as well, that my husband had been posting pictures of me on many free websites and I would get hundreds of emails a week from all ages and races. At about this same time (as beginning the IR porn together) I found that I would get a little extra "buzz" whenever the email was from an attractive black man young or old. I would be much more likely to carry on an extended email "give and take" with them than men of other races. In a couple of cases, I even had some phone conversations (with my husband present) as well. Those were EXTREMEMLY exciting.
At this time of my life (after 2 years of purveying IR porn), I am so curious about what it would be like to have sex with a black man (men).
Before I go on, I think I need to address the size issue. My husband has a normal length penis (6.5") and his girth is MUCH larger than what I have read (or experienced pre-marriage) in girth at 7.5" in the middle and 8" at the base. I never have a "friction" problem believe me. Flaccid though, he is sometimes quite small (grower, I believe is the term?) I know that he is embarrassed about that because he told me and a lot of times he won't even shower with me. While it doesn't bother me, I have to say that the pictures of some of the black men that hang really long is visually stimulating.
I think, though, that what turns me on the most in my mind is: 1) contrast of skin color 2) the excitement of a taboo relationship (especially for someone my age who grew up in the South) 3) the sexually superior attitude that black men seem to have; not only in the porn but also in real life when I'm dressed to thrill at the clubs we frequent. I would bet that none of them would object about taking a shower with me! LOL!
I just have to ask a question of all of you. Please answer honestly. Sex is a VERY powerful thing...great sex is even more powerful, almost like a drug. An amazing orgasm feels physically better than anything.
In your experiences, ( now remember, I need honesty) do married wives that have great sex with black men ever want to really have sex again with their white husbands? I mean I know that you will still love him, and the sex will have good "emotional" feelings attached.

But physically, I don't see how it could ever be the same once you have this amazing sex with a man that has 3-4" inches more than your husband and has a sexual superiority about him? As I said before, the men that I see in the amateur IR films seem to have so much more confidence than my husband in the bedroom. He seems to be constantly apologizing for his size or coming too quick, etc.

Here's my point. I found out early in our marriage that my husband has this thing about women in lingerie, especially stockings and heels (hence my name: wifenstockings). I found out that he can have sex and enjoy if I don't wear them, but when I do, I can tell that his satisfaction is at least double. So if a woman has multiple orgasms and almost passes out from ecstasy from having sex with black men (which it seems that a lot of women do), would you ever really get that excited about having sex with your husband who is not nearly the lover that they are?

Once Pandora's box is opened, you can't shut it off. That's almost how I feel now. I get so turned on thinking about having sex with black men, that I fantasize about it when I'm making love to my husband.
I enjoy sex immensely, but I am a bit reluctant to do something that may jeopardize my long (and for the most part) satisfying marriage.
Anyway, thanks for listening to this long letter, and I really hope for a lot of honest answers.

Thank you.:)

Different Experiences
 

First, I want to say that the the IR fantasy is mine, and my wife does this for the initial reasons why you wanted to do this for your husband. However, my wife has nowhere near the libido that I have or that you have. So it is difficult to get her interested in sex period. That said she has been with 5 different black guys. 4 of the five black guys were about my size both diameter and length - 4 inch girth and 7 inches long. There was only one guy who was a 5x8. Size does not matter to my wife as much as the connection she has with the guy. No connection for her nothing will happen. Her issue is in not the great sex she has with the black guys, she has had good orgasms with all of them, but rather the emotional stuff. She develops feelings for them which in turn they developed feelings for her and then it gets kinda dicey.

My wife and I always play together and she likes me watching her have sex and getting turned on but she insists that she loves my dick the best.

So you may find that you really, really, really like fucking black guys a lot and I bet your husband will love that about you. You may be surprised that the sex between you and your hubby improves as a result of the experience.

I hope that helps.

Thanks for that answer. You may be exactly right. I expect the 1st time will initially be outrageously exciting because of the fantasy I have built up in my head. But I'm old enough to know that reality rarely matches expectations. thanks.

my wife and i swap/group with a black couple that were long time friends first,..she too was reluctant at first ,it took a few times and a more dominant position by her bull before she began to really enjoy herself,..we've remained with our "playmates" for over two years now and our relations keep growing more incredible.
give it a try,..you may discover a entirely new aspect to your sex life.,.if not at least you can never say I WISHED i had given it a try

Hi, excellent post by the way. I am a black male in my early 40s and I am having a "relationship" with a 40 yo married white woman that has been going on for about a year and a half now. We met on another site and her husband was sort of the orchestrator of the whole thing, although I have never met him and don't plan to. I believe that is her preference that he not be involved but he seems to be content with the photos, video and stories that she provides from our encounters.

Anyways, to be honest, I believe that their sex life is MUCH better off now than before in my opinion. First off, she is getting the best of both worlds...a very loving relationship with her husband and a hot, passionate, yet also loving relationship with a black man...yes, we have strong feelings for each other and the husband knows this yet it seems to excite him even more and enhances their personal fantasies. For example, they once had me listen to them having sex on the phone-something that he had been hounding her to ask me to do for months. He really seemed to enjoy himself that night and it was kind of arousing for me as well. The next time we met I really put it on her...if you know what I mean.

I know that the sex is different between the two of us, for example she seems to save her pussy and ass for me when she knows we're going to meet by giving the hubby blowjobs instead. This is her preference. SHe loves giving head and can get him off quicker that way. They really don't have intercourse very often. I'm not sure if he prefers it this way or not, but I do know that he gets blown multiple times a day so maybe it's a good trade-off. lol He really does seem to be more into sending her off then hearing the stories afterwards rather than pleasing her himself.

I know I'm rambling but I think that if you enjoy sex with your hubby and you both are engaged in this fantasy equally then it should be pleasurable for both of you. I hope this helps a little let me know if you have any other questions for me and good luck to you!

response to your query
 

Really important questions there. I can only reply about our experience, but maybe that will help you think about how you want to proceed.

My wife and I have always had an excellent sex life, enjoying each other immensely. I am nicely endowed (7.5 x 5) and she has a tight pussy. We have long enjoyed an active fantasy life. Sexually we are exceptionally compatible.

Our IR adventures began about 3 years ago, when she - we have few secrets from each other - admitted that she had been fucked by 3 black men in college. The was a deep "dark" secret that she felt very ashamed about, due to the taboo, her conservative family, etc. I could tell she found interracial sex very exciting yet a tad scary - and very taboo - too.

Based on that, and telling her it was fine with me, actually quite arousing, I worked up to a 3some with a black man, then another, then another. Each experience was better than the last. She's had 5 black lovers now, all have been good, a couple have been amazing. She has insane orgasms with black cocks and loves to get fucked hard. Two of her black lovers have been a tad smaller than me, two have been my length but a lot thicker, and one was huge, a true 10 x 7 pornstar cock. He fucked the hell out of her for hours, never seen any woman cum like that. I had no idea she could take so much cock, she's a tight fit for me, but her got her so excited that he was balls-deep in no time.

But it brought us closer together - no matter how many rounds she goes interracially, I always fuck her after the stud finishes - and her pussy is as tight as ever. It's made our sex life better in every way.

But it's about honest communication about our desires and featrs. My being well endowed is good too, I'm not jealous even when she gets stretched out a bit.

Thanks so much for your great response...
This seems to be what I am afraid of. It sounds to me like he either does not feel "worthy" to have intercourse with her anymore because he knows that he can't satisfy her like you can and that his blowjobs that he gets are sort of "pity sex". If that works for them, that's fine with me. But I'm afraid our relationship might get the same way. Like in a way I might be thinking "Okay, let's get this over with" while I would be waiting for the really good sex with my black lover.

Communication
 

But you know that may be what he wants and it may not be just keep talking it through. It will come to the both of you. Of course I need to follow my own advice - LOL.

Yea, I see where your concern lies. Unfortunately I didn't know them before the affair started so I'm not sure to what degree their sexual relationship is different now. All I know is what I am told by her, and to be honest, I'm not sure how much of it is fluffed to try to cater to my ego.

I guess if you truly love your husband and he does truly satisfy you sexually as well AND you allow him to participate in the activities, by being present, being the facilitator or whatever role he is interested in then I don't see why your new found pleasure and craving of black men should change what you two share at home. It most likely will be a different experience but probably not one that will make you want to change what's happening at home. Of course I am a man talking and we tend to change gears like that naturally. Just my opinion.

I"m not sure where to start. My wife started out as a virgin before dating me and very religious. Our sex life was wonderful and fulfiling. Nonetheless, I had fantasies of her being with other men. It started with touching by her uncle. Then she gave the neighbor guy a wake-up bj.

There was the girl's trip to vegas where her friends and her went clubbing and went home with different guys every night. It's the religious quiet milfs that really make vegas fun.

Then her best friend was killed in a car accident and she got mad at god and got wild. I encouraged her and when she was helping the family get back on their feet, she started sleeping with our friend of 16 years. My wife 'always' connects sex and falling / being in love.. so she fell for this guy. This meant that he didn't want her to tell me the stories. This was betrayal. He treated her badly and she stopped it and came back to me emotionally.

Next, we went to vegas as a couple and visited a swinger club. We talked for a couple of hours... I thought we were on our way out the door. Then she ask me if it was ok for her to dance with this handsome black man that had been watching her. I was shocked, and very happy to say yes. they danced for a while. then the three of us went to a private room. it was beautiful for me to see my wife taken and subdued by a strong black man. Unfortunately, the room had time limits.. so we took him back to our hotel for more fun. It was a one-nighter and one of my fondest memories.

When we got home.... my wife started letting the neighbor have sex with her. She would bring me home the creampie...and i LOVE sloppy seconds... but he started seducing her. He also started to dominate her. He moved out and left his wife. I moved out, but i still see her almost every day. Now he is the primary relationship, and i'm the hot sex on the side. the roles have changed. She is now cucking him.

So...beside a long history, your questions about relationship.... LOVE, TRUST and COMMUNICATION will determine how your relationship goes. When I felt her wanting to be with her bf... that created the gap between us that he was trying to create. Now she realizes that she would rather be with me. I have to wait and see if her desire to be with me will over power her submissive nature.

If you have more questions...send me a message...thanks for the real questions.

Ditto on the size is good for sex, but love (emphasizing emotional connection) is a different experience.

One other note: large cocks are rare... everybody has a personal preference. Nina Hartley (porn star extrodinare) declared in a documentry that she favorite is a thick 8 inches. Of the two black men my wife has enjoyed, both were smaller than me...and i'm a little above average.