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[WifeNstockings]

This is my first post and I am hoping for honest, thoughtful responses from many of you with experience. I hope this initial post is not too long to hold your attention, but I am desperately seeking some answers before I "take the plunge".
My husband introduced me to this site and other similar sites about 2 years ago. We have an active and for the most part, satisfying sex life. Certainly much more prevalent than other middle aged couples.
His most prevalent "during sex" fantasy is ALWAYS about seeing me with another man, preferably a well-endowed black man. I knew that he enjoyed IR porn and we began to watch it together and to look at the pictures. At first, I did it mostly to please him, but after a while I became intrigued. The amateur movies that were obviously real were the ones I found most fascinating.
I should mention as well, that my husband had been posting pictures of me on many free websites and I would get hundreds of emails a week from all ages and races. At about this same time (as beginning the IR porn together) I found that I would get a little extra "buzz" whenever the email was from an attractive black man young or old. I would be much more likely to carry on an extended email "give and take" with them than men of other races. In a couple of cases, I even had some phone conversations (with my husband present) as well. Those were EXTREMEMLY exciting.
At this time of my life (after 2 years of purveying IR porn), I am so curious about what it would be like to have sex with a black man (men).
Before I go on, I think I need to address the size issue. My husband has a normal length penis (6.5") and his girth is MUCH larger than what I have read (or experienced pre-marriage) in girth at 7.5" in the middle and 8" at the base. I never have a "friction" problem believe me. Flaccid though, he is sometimes quite small (grower, I believe is the term?) I know that he is embarrassed about that because he told me and a lot of times he won't even shower with me. While it doesn't bother me, I have to say that the pictures of some of the black men that hang really long is visually stimulating.
I think, though, that what turns me on the most in my mind is: 1) contrast of skin color 2) the excitement of a taboo relationship (especially for someone my age who grew up in the South) 3) the sexually superior attitude that black men seem to have; not only in the porn but also in real life when I'm dressed to thrill at the clubs we frequent. I would bet that none of them would object about taking a shower with me! LOL!
I just have to ask a question of all of you. Please answer honestly. Sex is a VERY powerful thing...great sex is even more powerful, almost like a drug. An amazing orgasm feels physically better than anything.
In your experiences, ( now remember, I need honesty) do married wives that have great sex with black men ever want to really have sex again with their white husbands? I mean I know that you will still love him, and the sex will have good "emotional" feelings attached.

But physically, I don't see how it could ever be the same once you have this amazing sex with a man that has 3-4" inches more than your husband and has a sexual superiority about him? As I said before, the men that I see in the amateur IR films seem to have so much more confidence than my husband in the bedroom. He seems to be constantly apologizing for his size or coming too quick, etc.

Here's my point. I found out early in our marriage that my husband has this thing about women in lingerie, especially stockings and heels (hence my name: wifenstockings). I found out that he can have sex and enjoy if I don't wear them, but when I do, I can tell that his satisfaction is at least double. So if a woman has multiple orgasms and almost passes out from ecstasy from having sex with black men (which it seems that a lot of women do), would you ever really get that excited about having sex with your husband who is not nearly the lover that they are?

Once Pandora's box is opened, you can't shut it off. That's almost how I feel now. I get so turned on thinking about having sex with black men, that I fantasize about it when I'm making love to my husband.
I enjoy sex immensely, but I am a bit reluctant to do something that may jeopardize my long (and for the most part) satisfying marriage.
Anyway, thanks for listening to this long letter, and I really hope for a lot of honest answers.

Thank you.