break-thru conversation

sheLIKESdenzel · #1 (**permalink**) 11-08-2012, 09:10 AM

So the wife and I had some break-thru conversation and I think I know her main hang-ups with the idea of BBC.

1. Bless her heart, she's afraid this is all about ME wanting to sleep with other women. She doesn't understand or believe that I want this 'mostly' for her pleasure. No doubt that this is MY fantasy 'watching the wife with a nice BBC.' But it would not be a fantasy-come-true unless my wife thoroughly enjoys herself as well.

2. Married people don't do that sort of thing.

Watched a few Janet Mason scenes with her tonight. While the conversation was a little tense I bluntly but nicely asked her about any black fantasies. She said that YES, she'd had those fantasies when she was younger, but not as a married women.

I browsed with her earlier, photos of some cakes she'd made. She's fond of baking cakes and cookies and such. While watching the BBC porn I pointed at the screen and told the wife... "You'd probably have to bake him a plate of cookies or something." She couldn't help but laugh a little and smile.

As she was drifting off to sleep tonight and we were saying our good nights. I told her to "Have sweet dreams honey... about all the stuff we talked about." and she smiled.

Comments?

bambam999 · #2 (**permalink**) 11-10-2012, 02:48 AM

she needs bbc, you need to make it happen.

sheLIKESdenzel · #3 (**permalink**) 11-12-2012, 08:42 PM

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Originally Posted by bambam999

she needs bbc, you need to make it happen.

I think it's pretty much on me at this point. To try to make it happen or not? And how to make it happen? Too early right now.

alyna · #4 (**permalink**) 11-12-2012, 09:55 PM

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Originally Posted by sheLIKESdenzel

I think it's pretty much on me at this point. To try to make it happen or not? And how to make it happen? Too early right now.

If she doesn't want it, why force the issue?
If she's happy with what she has, why can't you be happy about that?
If she wants to be a faithful wife, why is that considered a bad thing?
If it truly is "about her" then just let her make her own decisions, she doesn't want it? End of story!

sheLIKESdenzel · #5 (**permalink**) 11-12-2012, 10:40 PM

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Originally Posted by alyna

If she doesn't want it, why force the issue?
If she's happy with what she has, why can't you be happy about that?
If she wants to be a faithful wife, why is that considered a bad thing?
If it truly is "about her" then just let her make her own decisions, she doesn't want it? End of story!

1.If she doesn't want it, why force the issue?
I would never force anything on her. I'm open with her and myself about all of this. Is that a bad thing?

2.If she's happy with what she has, why can't you be happy about that?
I am and always will be happy with her. She is amazing.

3.If she wants to be a faithful wife, why is that considered a bad thing?
It's not a breach of faithfulness with my consent. If she ultimately sides against, it's a good thing. If she goes for it, it's a good thing. There are no bad things between my wife and I.

4.If it truly is "about her" then just let her make her own decisions, she doesn't want it? End of story!
My feelings exactly. Of course. I haven't presented her with a realistic chance yet. If I REALLY offer it to her, I hope she goes with my decision on the matter naturally.

sheLIKESdenzel · #6 (**permalink**) 11-12-2012, 11:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Kalflcik

Dude it should not matter what we define as a whore when it comes to your story... The point being that what most of us are commenting about is that it does not sound like your wife is interested in having sex with another man, with or without your consent. She must be a good woman, in my opinion of course, none the less good luck with fulfilling your fantasies. Only live once right?

Again, "whore" is not the story here. You just threw that out there as bit of sunshine for the world. It's your projection onto shit called none-of-your-business.

I know I asked for comments, but with all the whore talk about my wife... You can keep your shit commentary for someone on this site who digs that sort of thing. Lastly. I hope. She is a damn good woman! A lucky man am I! She never did like assholes though and won't like you.

sheLIKESdenzel · #7 (**permalink**) 11-13-2012, 01:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Kalflcik

You will never be able to control what people comment to you when you share something. You have chosen to stick to the "whore" thing as a way to continue this crap. Very silly, I have not asked to sleep with your wife so assuming that I would even want to is ridiculous, I don't care if you or her think I'm an asshole.... responding to your post has given you the attention you have sought ought when you posted it I'm sure, sadly you will be thinking about black dick tonight more than your wife is.... regardless sweet dreams dude.

The wife would attest that I'm in no way a "controlling" person. The very idea of sharing is proof enough of it I think. And there IS a block-user function on this site if I choose to use it. So don't lie to me mr. morals. I always let an asshole be an asshole. I prefer they advertise it so I don't have to point it out. Being an asshole towards a couple of people in a forum just outs you as that... An asshole. Congratulations, you're an asshole. Look, you know how people feel about you so move on. You're just digging a deeper hole exposing yourself as a pushy asshole. You're a forum troll. As if they're something new. I suspect what happens now is you will redouble your efforts. With more vitriol and maybe even gibberish in attempt to be-blocked.

Your original comment on wife sharing was wrong headed. Just admit it. At worst it's slutty. So to continue on a wrongheaded slope turns ignorance into the propagation of lies. What you suggest is that there would be some sort of financial transaction. I seek only wholesome sex for the wife. A special occasion. And your big asshole head was projecting again, to suggest I was looking to see anything special coming from you.

Mustang Alley · #8 (**permalink**) 11-13-2012, 03:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Kalflcik

You will never be able to control what people comment to you when you share something. You have chosen to stick to the "whore" thing as a way to continue this crap. Very silly, I have not asked to sleep with your wife so assuming that I would even want to is ridiculous, I don't care if you or her think I'm an asshole.... responding to your post has given you the attention you have sought ought when you posted it I'm sure,

sadly you will be thinking about black dick tonight more than your wife is.... regardless sweet dreams dude.

Very well said!!!