Me too...
 

I think most of the women/couples are here just to look and fantasize.... I guess that's not a problem if they would just put that out there on their profile. I want to meet and fuck; it's right there in my profile too so nobody can get that twisted.

It's a Community
 

Some are on these sorts of sites to genuinely meet people to pursue further real meetings. Some just want to be part of the larger community. It would be unrealistic to think you'll be meeting people in real time who are thousands of miles away. But the lifestyle is about getting together on some level with others with the same socially relaxed outlook. For us, locals are potential for go beyond that. But that is potential. Meeting soemtime at a public lifestyle event or whatever is comfortable for all involved can assess such chemistry, Sending a message about getting together to screw is not too forward to some perhaps, but to many it is presumptuous and maybe even desperate, neither being attractive. There are those in fantasyland, others still figuring out what they want (though genuine), others playing games and wasting time, and others just being either particular in their selections of playmates or just uncomfortable in progressing on that in cyberspace (a generational thing usually). But the two mosst commonly suspected are the ganme players and the sorts who want it but are like dogs chasing the ice cream truck with no idea what to do when it does stop in the street. People are just complicated and we see a weird sliver of a facade for each (including all of ourselves) on these sites. Hooking up might not be everyone's agenda, at least not for all of the folks they befriend.

Some of the most insightful, interesting and intelligent comments I have seen on this site. It's all about the ice cream truck. And maybe dogs in heat. It's all good.

I am quite happy having friends from all over, even knowing that distance will preclude any face to face meeting with someone. I will get into conversation with people usually based on some catalyst. A comment in a thread, a post on a wall, a blog entry. If I were to actually get into deep conversation with every single one of my Internet friends, I'd have to win the lottery because there'd be no time left for my job. Lol.

People will float into and out of your life for various reasons. Having a friendship on here doesn't mean I will be in constant touch with someone, but one or the other of us may reach out at some point. And that's cool.

Sigh..... why do you guys ask the same questions over and over? Because 95% of the women are men.

the reason why us chics do that is,because somtimes we don't want speak right a way,gotta give time u know.

Women add you to their friends list for the same reason people on facebook add you to your friends list and rarely chat with you. I would also say some of the women on here are mostly guys that want to see their wife with a black man.

JandGinSD very well said!
 

Very well said indeed. I think people fail to realize that there is money to be made on sites like this, and that means whoever can participate reals, fakes, aliens. Are there some idiotic posts of course, are there some fakes? Yes and they are an irritant but it 's like fish. Eat the meat and spit out the bones.

Lol. Love it. 😊

My thoughts exactly...GOOD ANSWER!

Many women like myself joined for the online community. I have to keep my personal and professional life separate and maintain a certain persona in public. Even though I indulge in my personal life as much as possible, the need to keep things separate makes it hard. The online community here and the anonymity is the reason why I joined. I want to have a conversation or discuss things, but almost all the stuff in my inbox are questions about my looks, wanting sex or wanting pics. These were not the reasons why I joined. Since I have joined I have had only two men contact me just to chat about something that wasn't about fucking me (well some weren't clear with words like just "Hi" which I ignore because I don't know what you want) And I enjoyed those conversations on a variety of topics (movies, my job or his job, my personal life or his personal life, lifestyle choices, you know just chatting to get to know me and for me to know him) which was the main purpose of my joining. Maybe one day I'll meet them but that is not the reason I am here.
If more of the guys were gentlemen and respected my personal privacy desires I would contact them more often. But most of them don't and I ignore them

In defense for the guys.
 

Good chance that the reason that you're getting messages like that, is because of your user name. You branded yourself as a slut. Basically the guys are coming at you like that bc they see you as a slut. Kinda like you get what you portray. Even if your post are basic chit chat, it's your user name that guys see first. Soon as they see the word "slut" their mind goes in a different direction.

If its normal chit chat (which I love) that your looking for then I suggest that you start a new account with a new username.

Ikr
 

Totally agree 💋

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I keep a very close nit circle. Just bc your on my friends list doesn't mean that we gonna get down like that. Besides not many (not bragging, just stating a fact) can play the way I like to play. Simply can't can't be bored with mundane sex. So that narrows the playing field!' Plus I choose not to spread myself around, hell I would never get off my backside if I slept with everyone on my friends list.

All my female friends had better watch out. Im gunning for you. Lol. :p


It's very VERY rare for me to send a friends request. Now only accept those that I've personally verified. Geesh and I just deleted over 600 friends. Still not possible to sleep with the remainder. Lol Plus I have my cuck buddies *waves* no sex there.

So true!!!

Yep...
 

I will say it again: whatever your intentions are, put them on your profile so that way no one gets confused about why you're here!

Example: If you have chat/email only or anything gay or your profile I wont even waste my time or yours.

Yes us guys could probably be more "sweet" in our approach to the ladies here.... But honestly, most of us hate the bullshit games we have to play IRL to get laid, so we are much more straight forward via Internet. It's great when it works.... No overpriced dinners, boring ass romantic comedies, and pretending to like your snotty ass kid(s). Plus I still get the pussy???? Hellzzzzzzz yeah! Funny, (perhaps a bit sad) but true. I'm guilty. Not all the fellas here are like that though and I can't speak for all of us.

I can say that I will be much more careful when adding peeps to my list in the future. I will also be unloading all of the dingle berries currently on there who never respond to emails. Like my old Chinese grandmother used to say, No talky, get to walky. LOL

Dem Bones
 

Hey wait a second . . . there aren't any bones :)!

Now did you thirsty bastards read her comment? Act like you didn't just discover that you had a dick then you guys would have better luck meeting women here.