Interracial Forums » Interracial Forum » Couples and Women Looking

[CaliBlk4U]

Wow... I understand the need to protect one's privacy and all of that, but I can't help but wonder about the people who take that to the extreme.

Sure, you're taking a chance by putting too much out there online... but look where you all are -- online. This isn't an in-person, meet-n-greet, where you can exchange ID's and STD test results in realtime. These digital checks (photos, etc) are pretty much all we have to go on initially.

The question I'm always thinking when I hear/read that people are unwilling to provide proof of who they are is; what else are they not saying? Even if they turn out to be "real", what else might they be holding back, presumably for the sake of their own privacy? Could those be things that I really should know before I commit to meeting strangers, in some strange place, in order to do (possibly) strange things?

You see, what some of you don't seem to get is that there actually needs to be at least the appearance of trust for all of this to actually end up with everybody hooking up... Hell, even an escort won't return your call if your number is blocked. Are you going to give the black men here at least that much consideration? Or should we just fly completely blind all of the time?

One last thought... If the idea of anyone finding out about your black cock fetish is so earth shatteringly, god awful scary for you, maybe it's just not the lifestyle for you.

[Mustang Alley]

Originally Posted by CaliBlk4U

Wow... I understand the need to protect one's privacy and all of that, but I can't help but wonder about the people who take that to the extreme.

Sure, you're taking a chance by putting too much out there online... but look where you all are -- online. This isn't an in-person, meet-n-greet, where you can exchange ID's and STD test results in realtime. These digital checks (photos, etc) are pretty much all we have to go on initially.

The question I'm always thinking when I hear/read that people are unwilling to provide proof of who they are is; what else are they not saying? Even if they turn out to be "real", what else might they be holding back, presumably for the sake of their own privacy? Could those be things that I really should know before I commit to meeting strangers, in some strange place, in order to do (possibly) strange things?

You see, what some of you don't seem to get is that there actually needs to be at least the appearance of trust for all of this to actually end up with everybody hooking up... Hell, even an escort won't return your call if your number is blocked. Are you going to give the black men here at least that much consideration? Or should we just fly completely blind all of the time?

One last thought... If the idea of anyone finding out about your black cock fetish is so earth shatteringly, god awful scary for you, maybe it's just not the lifestyle for you.

Now that's real talk!! Thanks Cali, for sharing your thoughts on this matter..

[Mustang Alley]

Originally Posted by vmclbc

We do not want to waste anybodys time, hence the comments on the profile page.

Considering our view point in mind should that exclude us from this site, if we choose not to be validated?
vmclbc (couple)

That's cool if you're open and honest about the fantasy. Long as you have it out there in the open like you have it..

Verified pictures don't have to be a face shot.. Take a pick of y'all together (couples profile) hold up a piece of paper with your name on it. Edit the pic so that the faces are blurred or just trim that section off... There ya go a verified picture!! Pic doesn't have to have a face..

Oh and I love the fact y'all wrote on your profile that's it's just fantasy.. Other fantasy couples need to the same. Nice job!!! ��

[Lovingsex2012]

Thats ridiculous caliblk. There are tons of people, probably a majority, enjoying fetishes and lifestyles that they dont allow the public to know about. And they are having a wonderful time. With my wife and I, if someone is interested we give our cell numbers and exchange regular face pics that no one on earth could look at and say "oh they are on a swinger site." We have done this long enoigh to know how to let the other person know we are real. If you post a pic on here someone could pull the site up and show others you are on it.

Hell, my wife had an account on this site WITH pics and a racist black guy got in here, who I still tell her was a juvenile, and at first was extremely sexist towards her and then he accused her of being a man. He is lucky I have no idea where he is. But that was done even with pics posted. So we decided to just let me be on here and I just think its best we continue meeting people the way we were. Again, my wife, by letting the guys know she was real the way we handle it, has now been chatting and been with some very nice guys from the site.

To be honest we are on other swinger sites and this is not a problem on them. This is the only site where white and black guys are pretending to be someone they are not.

But to respond to caliblk honestly, the lifextyle suits us fine. We love it. We just dont advertise our pics on sites. Its just our preference and it has worked fine for us. Even if people posted pics it doesnt prove its really them. Im like all of you sick of black and white guy fakes, but I dont see any real way to stop them. Some posts could be blocked by the admins of the site. That might help.

[CaliBlk4U]

I think I understand where you're coming from Lovingsex2012, and it does sound like you're willing to share, once a connection starts to take shape. You don't sound like the "extreme" case I was talking about... We've all seen those, and it doesn't matter if they have a profile pic or not. These are the people with no city in their profile, much less even a state. They throw up a "love-to-meet" posting and don't even bother to tell anyone where they're from.

The fake white guys who like to slither around this place destroy the experience for everyone. They seem to get off on what they do, but it's like pissing in your own beer -- at the end of the day it doesn't make any sense, and just drives all us black men (that they seem so hot for) away.

So we ask for pics -- as some sort of weak, useless proof that the person on the other end of the Internet connection is who they say they are. Not to out you to your friends and fellow PTA members, but to have at least a little assurance that its not another runaround... But it usually is. And the most you can usually hope for is a hot picture that you haven't already seen someone else pass off as theirs on some another site.

This lifestyle is mine -- I've been in it since grade school... But the associated websites sometimes almost kill it for me.<end rant>

[Lovingsex2012]

I fully understand. For some reason this site just attracts fake black and white men. Im not sure why. It does get old. Its not just fake white men though. Dont be fooled. Its dumbasses in both races. I wish they would leave the site all together.